This does not have anything to do with your post but the point is that I learned acceptance and the process never left me.

I am not quite sure why you say that my dear @churchboy. Actually, I am very grateful that you have, once more, contributed for this debate with this topic. Lately, I have been approached by quite a few people who have both been through a break up and lost a loved one and are struggling to move on. You see, they just don't want to accept the situation!

What you said is so true. One just needs that moment of realization; but, I just feel that to get there one needs to step back from feeling so bitter about everything. Also like you said, one has to take responsibility for their own feelings. And one of the reasons I love your comment so much is because you are sharing with us your own experience while also being honest that it was not exactly easy, but that you were brave enough to go through the difficult phase in order to achieve peace.

Like when you said :

I kept playing it over my mind how I did not deserve the way .... I felt much better than I had felt in months

This is so realistic, and I am sure everyone reading your words can related to this state of mind. However, it is hopeful and you have kindly told others here that their pain is not going to last forever. Even when they decide to face it!

I am so grateful to you for taking the time to do the homework. That is something I try to engage with everyday. On days when I feel inspired I even try 5 minutes. Of course, those who are expert on meditation and adopt it as part of a faith would not say this is enough. However, from a neuropsychological point of view it is an invaluable exercise for the brain to practice focus and attention. I think this is also useful in life because it aids us to tune in also to the good moments. I see that when one is aware of the good moments when the bad ones come along they seem more manageable.

I am very glad to hear your opinion about acceptance. Because it is just like everything in life isn't it? It requires balance. Of course one can not just simply accept everything, but fighting against what can be changed can only be detrimental to one's psychological well-being.

Ohh ... I am so happy to hear you liked this post. Your support and opinion are truly important to me and I just hope you know that! I don't know if you saw my reply to your comment. But, just to let you know I post every Friday around midday Portugal time, ok??

Lots of love to you always my dear :)