Learning positive self-love ..
God created us on a common sense and a pure soul, but life prevails in the hearts and destroys souls, but this does not prevent us to elevate ourselves and our souls and always aspire to them in all the situations and events that happen to us and who loves himself and loves her goodness and progress and success must make this a starting point for the love of others. God endowed the human being with a great position in this universe and distinguished it over all other beings and beings. Whenever we study verses and narrations in religious texts and we consider legislations and rulings, we observe the extent to which God Almighty has a great status and a high degree that is superior to most creatures.
- A love of goodness away from extremist selfishness and vanity:
Self-love is never permissible to suspend your life, without opening it, to give a place to others, and without giving sufficient time to listen to others, and to share with others in their circumstances, and the circumstances of their various lives.
- And the love of the soul, too, is not the brag and the arrogance, arrogance and arrogance. He who loves himself does not need to be condescended with his money or property, his family, or his social or scientific level. Rather, a person who loves himself needs to establish himself in moderation, so it is not permissible for him to detract from his destiny, nor to exaggerate it.
- God created every human being, who has his talents and abilities, has his mind, and his emotions, and the human being is a creature of value and importance, that people need and respect. Through self-worth builds self-confidence, and achieve the same.
Vhab self, does not separate rights of others. It does not lead to incorrect unity and isolation of its owner, and the one who loves himself should not seek only his self-sufficiency.
It is difficult for one of us to love others and he does not love himself and it is also difficult to ask the person to respect others while he does not respect himself.
Self-love builds the same person and its future.
Love of the soul is a true pillar of honest self-building, on the basis of truth and honesty.
When a person talks to himself that he is less than others, he should remove these obsessions and read the verses and hadiths that he knows himself and draw his attention to what God has deposited in him of abilities and talents.
Think about what you need a flower seed to be that attractive flower?
You need to water it with water ...
Likewise, you need to wait every opportunity to tell yourself with love and appreciation. And by looking for everything that is beautiful in your personality, and also by accepting the faults of yourself and accepting the idea that a person is imperfect. This of course does not mean that you do not seek to change for the better, but be kind and compassionate with yourself, stand in front of the mirror and fall in love with that reflection that is you.
(Self-love is the beginning of a long romantic life)
Self-acceptance, a person acquires it by his own free will, and a person studies with himself how to accept his reality and be satisfied with himself.
Accept your social and economic conditions - as they are, and also accept your appearance as you are. your accept to yourself is the base of your release. And accepting yourself makes you live in the present, and not in the past. Whoever accepts himself controls his temper and behavior.
Do not make your love for yourself a conditional love coupled with your shape, color, social or financial status, love yourself at all times and be proud of it ... your experiences are what polishes you and makes you better.
- Self-condemnation does not liberate a person, as he cannot change anything that he does not accept as a reality. It is easy for a person to be a judge for himself or others. But he not achieve for himself the liberation from feeling guilty. And freedom is achieved through recognition and repentance for our mistakes and our sins that are by our will, and that without our will, and as we ask that God forgive us, we also forgive ourselves.
Do you often blame yourself for trivial things? Is there no sound in your mind that tells you that you are a failure because you are stupid and make mistakes?
When you find that your self-criticism has exceeded the reasonable limit, you should get rid of it immediately.
If you have done something in the past that makes you despise yourself whenever you remember it, you need to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, so you do not need to whip yourself everything you remembered your mistakes. And if you have negative emotional deposits from childhood days you should forget that because it is not your fault.
(Tolerance is getting a prisoner out of his prison, that prisoner is you.)
God has created you as a single person, with your own personality, personality, talents and abilities. Sit with yourself and try to record on paper what you feel unique about it. Know your personal abilities. Return to this paper more than once over a period of days; you will discover those around you, whether in your family or friends.
Avoid negative love, reject feelings of failure, do things that make you better, and ensure that they succeed. A person’s growth happens daily. Growth is a continuum and successive processes that raise a person to maturity and deepen self-confidence.
You must have confidence in your abilities, that you are able to make important changes in your life, and it may help you more to visualize the results as if you see them clearly, because the box full of jewels does not fit the gravel .. and the heart filled with wisdom does not accommodate the small.
"You can do more than you expect," says an American writer.
Winning and achieving success are not always the most important, but the effort you made to achieve success may be the specific gain. It is important that you do not lose sight of everything you have done, even if you are not successful in achieving the desired results.
Loving yourself requires you to let go of anxiety, how miserable it is for you to live your life with everlasting anxiety. Do you remember that you worried one day, and the events changed because of your anxiety?
Only act wisely that changes events. Instead of worrying, think of a way to solve the problem. Either the problem is beyond your control. Let everything go as it is.
A Greek philosopher says (there is one way to be happy: to leave anxiety about things that you have no trick to)
“Work for your world as if you live forever, and work for the hereafter as if you are going to die tomorrow.” And do not worry or grieve over what has passed, and do not worry about what is coming, for what has passed is dead and all that is coming is known only to God alone.
Esteem for yourself its strength and gifts that God has given you and I am grateful that you are alive and well and have the full ability to change your life and that you are a Muslim. And when you start thinking about yourself positively, your love for yourself will increase.
You will find appropriate opportunities to boost your self-confidence, for example, if you have a certain talent, set aside time to practice and develop this talent, and you must be fully convinced that this skill is a special gift for you from God that you can be unique and thereby achieve yourself.
When you spend spiritual times, your self-love will happen automatically. You will feel safe and loving.
We Muslims have the greatest source of spirituality, which is worship of all kinds, and your reward in every work you do raises your level of spirituality in a way you might not expect.
Why deny yourself and your dreams? When your dreams are renewed, you will love the life you live in. In obedience to God, every moment you live in is a grant because you are alive and every moment you live is yourself and you must improve its use.