How to improve your ability to be a human being

There is a sentence in the movie "Godfather"Those who spend half a second looking at the essence of things, and those who spend the rest of their lives failing to see the essence of things, are destined to be completely different fates, because values ​​determine fate.

If you have seen Li Xiaolai's "The Road to Wealth and Freedom," you must know that his point of view is also the same: values ​​determine fate.

What are the values?
The so-called values, the most popular and most effective definition are nothing more than: know what is good, know what is better, know what is best.

When you are faced with the so-called "choice", the reason for hesitation or entanglement is simply because suddenly you are not sure which option is better and which option is worse.
Therefore, the choice is not difficult, and may not even exist.
The so-called choice is only the natural result after the value is determined, so the more in-depth conclusion is: the value determines the fate.

Steven Covey puts forward a "view and gain" model in "The Seven Habits of High-Performance People"

"View" is the level of thinking, values, principles, beliefs, etc."for" is behavior.

Just like the words of Mr. Steven Covey, if you want to make a small change, you only need to start with behavior; if you want to see the real qualitative change, please start with thinking.

The same is true of how to improve people's ability to live. When people encounter something, we need to know how to choose, what is the most important.

And to know how to choose, we have to have a set of values ​​system that is in line with the right path.

Sometimes we are particularly passive when we are human, because we don't have an accurate navigation, that is, we don't have a good value system.

What is a smart person?Nothing else, people who have clear criteria for "what is important, what is more important, and what is most important"

Many people have their own values ​​system, such as Steven Covey, whose seven habits are his own principles and values.

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Beginning with the end
First thing
Win-win thinking
Knowing each other
Integrated effect
Constantly updated

He will guide his behavior based on these

Inamori Kazuo also has his own principles and values, such as six improvements:
First, pay as much as anyone's efforts
Second, be modest, don't be proud
Third, we must reflect every day
Fourth, be alive, thank you
Five, good deeds, think of him
Sixth, don't have emotional troubles

Franklin also has his own principles and values, which is his 13 virtues.
Moderation: The food is not too greasy, and the drink is not drunk.
Less words: words have something, self-interested people; do not gossip.
Order: The item has its place and the work has its time.
Determined: When things are done decisively, the decision is never slow.
Thrift: No extravagance, no one, no one, no good.
Diligence: Cherish the time, do what, do something.
Honesty: If people do not harm, their thoughts are simple and fair, and their words are well-founded.
Fairness: Don't blame others and avoid responsibility.Moderate: It’s too late to endure the pain and tolerance.Neat and tidy: the clothes are neat and the room is clean.Calm: Not disturbed by trivial matters, not surprised by accidents.Abstinence: nothing more than the order of fitness delay, not over-indulgence, endangering physical and mental festivals.Modesty: follow Jesus, Socrates.

Franklin not only has his own principles, but he also made a booklet similar to “Faithfulness”. He carefully selected a virtue every year to practice, compare it daily, and record it in the booklet to see if he strictly followed this.
The behavioral requirements put forward by virtue.

In the book "Human weaknesses", Carnegie lists many principles for human life:

Don't criticize, don't blame, don't complain
Sincerely thank others and praise others
Inspire others' needs
Build an interest in others and follow others with sincerity
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Listen intently and encourage others to talk about themselves
Talking about things that are of interest to the other party
Let the other person know how important he is.

For ordinary people, we also need to have such principles and values, constantly contrasting, as a yardstick for people to live, and constantly practice in the work and life, so that they have the opportunity to improve themselves.