The double standards are insidious and incessant. The most infuriating thing is that people don't even recognise them when they see them. It's just 'the way it is', as Hornsby sang, back in the 80s, and still we're dealing with it - sadly things change so slowly we barely notice. All you can do is point it out to people when you see it and be that advocate for change, as you're doing here. More power to you!