I love the sincerity in your words @tarazkp. It takes a lot for us, humans, to accept our faults and weaknesses. It takes even more to accept that you are the weak one in a relationship. I have been in several failed relationships and each time the euphoria fades, I ask myself; what did I do wrong? Did I not love her enough? Did I not show her enough? Did I not go out of my way to please her? And each time I end up blaming myself. Maybe there's something I should have done or said.
We are always seeking for who to lean on; someone to share the weight of living with. We call it companionship, relationship, marriage, friendship... But it is actually a selfish thing. Why because, we get into these connections out of our own needs, not because of the needs of your wife, your best friend or your flatmate. If they had nothing to offer you, you won't go near them. This is who we are.
We act like we do not need people to survive; move away from family, go for retreats in isolated places, etc but we never completely cut off ourselves; we read, we watch TV, we use the phone... Are these not relationships?
I think I am derailing from the subject of your article. I must apologize.
We only give what we have; and love is a burden even without the baggage, some of us carry along. Changing to fit into someone's idea of right, compromising your health, your hobbies, your job, your whole life, just to please someone else is a big deal. That is why we should never take for granted those who have given up a lot for us. This is a burden that we must bear.
I doubt if I made sense here, I was probably rambling. It's 1.52am here and I am weirdly awake. This was a good read @tarazkp. The article needs some edits though; some spelling mistakes here and there. Auto-correct at work I guess. Good morning