The vocabulary to change your world.
The word is not the thing. A word is a description of a thing, or points to a thing but, is never the thing. Even the word 'word', is not the word, it is a word. Even though, words do have substance and that substance is meaning.
More than just words
Behind each word is a depth of information and herein lies their value and purpose as a large amount of information can be condensed into a very small space and then can be used in conjunction with other words to make very complex concepts easy to comprehend and transfer. They are a formula that expands out to a large and often difficult idea.
But, this also carries with it a problem as the concept and meaning behind the word is quite unique to the individual. The exception to this may be mathematical principles that have been understood, agreed upon and transferred. Think about E=MC2. How much information is contained within?
Well, for someone like me, I have no real idea as my held concepts energy, mass and speed of light is not in line with the meaning of the formula. But, for someone that has some inkling of physics or maths, all they need to see is the formula and lifetimes of work by some brilliant minds can be transferred.
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There is no cat, there are many
But, with words of common spoken languages, the meaning is less uniform as it is subjective. If I say, 'cat', everyone that holds a concept of a cat forms an imagine in their mind and even though it is likely that there will be a high amount of consistency, the image is still going to be unique for all. Some words though do not carry information in the same way. There is no image. For example, 'the'. What do you see when thinking of this word?
In this case one, is likely to then group it with something else to build a concept that points to the meaning of the word, for example, 'the couch'. You know what the means but without an object to visualize, it becomes meaningless.
Look to see what stares back
But, this points to another area also. When hearing a word, what generally comes to mind for simple words is a picture that represents the thing. So when you read 'the couch', you didn't imagine my couch (If you did, I have to close the blinds), it is likely that you imagined your couch or one that is familiar to you as it is unlikely that you created a whole new couch from scratch.
But, when faced with a complex term like government, what comes to mind. What represents it for you? What about abortion or religion, equality, racism or Nazi? What has changed? Likely, rather than seeing just a basic image type scenario, the concept is bound to some kind of narrative, a story of what the means to you and again, each person has a different movie running. Depending on your own background, these terms could be positive or negative, it could also come coupled with a lot of emotion.
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What I meant to say is
This is not very interesting perhaps for many and they tuned out or clicked the back button a while ago. What is interesting is that these concepts and narratives that we hold are also a driving force in our actions as they are the way in which we make sense of our world. We act upon it even if the information we hold is wrong such as narratives built upon lies, half truths or fragments of information extrapolated out to overreaching meanings.
This, at least for me, is interesting as these images, stories and associated emotions are able to be manipulated. Most have probably heard somewhere 'control the narrative' but have likely not thought very deeply upon the concept as the meaning behind is obvious. Most think that it is to make the story favorable or unfavorable depending on the needs of the controller which is true but, there is more to it than that.
The narrative they are controlling is not just the one in the news, it is the one that we hold inside, the one that we will act upon or vote upon. It isn't to 'control the story', it is to control us and our handling of the information or events that have transpired. And, this can be used to great effect over time.
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Hey, over here guys
With small shifts in the story, the concept behind a word can be hijacked and although the word remains, the mental narrative can change markedly. My over eighty year old father for example is someone who would likely still use gay to mean happy. He has several gay/homosexual friends. He just calls them friends.
But when the narrative changes internally, the external actions follow suit. By casting doubt upon the commonly held narrative and then slowly injecting seeds to grow and strangle what remains, a shift across a massive population, even global population can take place. For example, the idea of environmental care by reducing pollution, something all unanimously agree upon, got spun into an argument about climate change or global warming.
But, narratives can also change positively also. For example a friend of mine who's father is a Vietnam war veteran raised him to believe a narrative that the Vietnamese are scum and should be eradicated. This was awkward since there were a number of Vietnamese background students at our high school and a couple of times, arguments turned into more. The interesting thing is, that when older, his narrative changed as he started to see the biased manipulation. He was forced to. His wife is Vietnamese. Love generally rips apart expectation and beliefs, it destroys the narrative and rebuilds anew.
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But, those guys he would argue and fight with at high school, they likely still hold the same narrative that he is a racist asshole that hates each and everyone of them. They do not know that his story has changed, like a 'choose your own adventure' book. he has rewritten the coding and meaning behind the words.
What is my definition of me
Which brings me to the next point. Since our narrative guides our actions, what has to happen for us to change effectively is that our narrative changes. Now, we also hold a story about ourselves that is to lesser or greater degrees wrong, as the story we tell rarely matches what we do as we overstate positive attributes and justify the negative. The justification is an example of changing the narrative of the self, which is essentially going back and rewriting history into a favorable fiction, a flattering portrait.
But, most people that think about changing themselves in some way do not look deep enough to see the narrative that plays in the background. This is why so many exercise regimens and diets fall down, they are swallowed by the old story. However changing the story is quite easy to begin with.
By taking the vocabulary of the topic, rewriting the backstory and then consistently and intentionally acting upon it, in short time, the actions start to become somewhat automatic as the internal dialogue starts to speak with the improved definitions list. This literally changes the way you experience the world, your world.
The next question is, if we are acting on our internal narratives about how the world works, where'd we hear the story in the first place?
There are a lot of things in here that may require more depth and I will try to get to it at some point but I am tired and it is already 1300 words. People often complain about the length of my articles but, the problems with lists in my story? The underlying narrative rarely changes. Hopefully though, there is something in here for your mental teeth to chew upon and mull over and perhaps even bring up an internal narrative to consider again.
Taraz
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well, you have my vote
this is truly some food for thought
and I myself have changed my inner narative 2 months back
i have quit smoking after 20+ years of convincing myself i liked it and i wasnt addicted
Once the physical nicotine addiction is gone its just about changing that inner narative (the habit) and rewriting your story
its not easy and I still sometimes find the previous version of my story come to the forefront but stay convinced.
Repetition is something that really is hardwired in the brain but it can be reversed.
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When I thought of writing this post at alittle deeper level, I was actually in a session with a client. I used to be a smoker too and he is. I used it as an exmple of the narrative change. I found that when non-smokers would talk about the cancer risk or the cost etc, I just felt like having another cigarette. Their honest attempts to shift my perception and convince me actually reinforced the behaviour. I always found this interesting in myself and then spent some time to work out why I did it.
I figure that I am not so unique so it may help others too. Also, the patterns are still there, don't tempt fate and ever test if you are still addicted.
There is indeed a lot in this post that could be elaborated on and dissected further but the attention span of most, including myself I must admit, is such that I believe you have made the right choice in limiting the expression of your thoughts on the subject. :)
There are so many loaded words in our vocabularies these days that most of us are having to second guess everything we say in public for fear of offending someone or having our positions taken out of context. I don't see things improving any time soon especially with the demise of the use of common language being replaced by text speak and emoticon expressions.
I could go on and on but it has also been a long day for me and looks like being another tomorrow. :)
I hope you and your family are well my friend!
This is why I think we need to look into this stuff as once understood, we may be able to all speak more freely and forgive 'those that trespass' kind of idea as we are sensitive to the person, not just their current held position.
We are well. First birthday coming up on Sunday and a million other things to do. Take care, I hope you got some sleep.
The way I see it - the older we get the harder it is to change an internal narrative we've been building for a long time, adding new elements, making it stronger.
Yes, I think it is harder but still not impossible. Maybe I am young and naive ;)
So much food for thought about the interpretation, power, and imperfectness of words here! Thank you for sharing - I especially like where you were headed about examining our narratives and constructs.
There are several rabbit holes within I think. Choose one :)
I really enjoyed this post. It made me think about the importance of our mother language, in the sense that words are the structure of thinking. Cogito ergo sum, perhaps
Keep up with the good work
Thanks, I am glad it gave you something to chew. I do not have all the details off the top of my head but, there have been studies that show a link between languages that have no future tense and high personal savings. Might be interesting to look into if interested in the lingual side.
https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/09/can-your-language-influence-your-spending-eating-and-smoking-habits/279484/
I guess your post explores the foundational principle behind "neurolinguistic programming" championed by Tony Robbins and such. Judging from your earlier posts, I think you believe that concepts make experience possible.
I can't say that I know much about NLP other than a cursory glance or Tony Robbins. Experience is what experience is. I do think that we generally act upon how we think something works or could work though and that working is a learned process. Changing our understanding/order/parts of the process will change what gets acted from it.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.