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RE: Why do we seek approval? Why do we seek love from external sources?
Life is too short to worry what people think ;)
"Many people make a mistake of thinking they can hate themselves and feel miserable, sad and depressed, and then those thoughts and feelings will miraculously disappear by the feeling of love." - this is so true.
If one side seeks emotional and mental stability in the other person, most of those relationships are not long term sustainable. Sooner or later the fears and insecurities of the person seeking approval come out and start being problems for the relationship. That's why it's always said that you have to love yourself first. But that's a long and hard process. It can't happen over night.
I love the way you think, and I am honored you quoted me :) Thank you. Nothing happens overnight and my favorite quote "Nothing worth having comes easy." - as well as loving yourself, it's worth having. :) Did you see the questions? I'd love to hear the answer.
:) True, it is not easy to learn how to love yourself. We all constantly seek love and attention, but being single is not the worst thing in the world. Actually it's great.
I seeked approval, mostly through love and relationships. I would always pick the wrong people and then would try everything to make it right. I was scared of being alone. What helped me was when I went abroad twice for 5 months each time. I was alone and completely independent and didn't have time for "love sh*t" because I had to make my money and survive. So I kinda learned to love myself when I was by myself. I learned to value myself and my free time and that nothing can be forced if it's not meant to be.
But when it comes to seeking approval from people around me, I really don't care what they think. Of course I don't want to seem weird to others, no one wants that. But I can handle people not liking me.
It is scary to be alone, but only until we are at peace with ourselves and love ourselves. I am glad you learned from your experiences, and that you had the chance to go abroad to realize who you are and to love you.
Yea I get you, it's good to hear an opinion, but not when it demands you to not do you. :) Wonderful answer thank you for taking the time to share a piece of you with us. :)
You are welcome :)) Keep up the good work, I love your posts. Excellent English, not a single mistake. Good narrative and interesting topics. A+
Thank you very much, teacher, hahah :)