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RE: What is the best way to move forward when faced with dissension within a community?

in #philosophy6 years ago (edited)

Your definition of psychic vampirism is new to me:

Psychic vampirism is a rampant, learned energetic phenomenon in our society (typically first taught by one's parents, subconsciously) in which one literally steals some life energy from another by purposely upsetting them to throw them off balance.

I think dissension is necessary and is not always wrong. Sometimes the small group of dissension recognizes something the whole has not yet. It is best to deal with dissension openly and directly before calling for media and legal action or demonstrations. I am glad you wrote this:

This notification, however, should be done with an intention of pure, unconditional love, without any blaming or projection.

I work in a socially emerging country with serious differences in worlds of thought by generation. This combined with a hierarchical structure of decision making comes to unspoken disagreements. As an American I am in the middle. I have seen this dissension in the public school, Ministry of Education and in the church. As a foreigner I try not to interfere but to provide an environment for people to talk openly until they can see why the community acts a certain way. So far I have not seen few permanent resolution. Mostly avoidance or compromise. This is because of the "beliefs" as you discussed in the first two paragraphs including value systems of individuals.

The last place of dissension and where it hurts the most is in the family. In my experience it is better to lose temporarily and win long term. My wife and I are from two completely different mind sets as probably every man and woman. I can't expect her to understand why I love some of the things about crypto currency and decentralization and public media presence and some of my theories of education clash with her. It's like we hit a brick wall. If it is not urgent then I wait. Some day later she understands just like that. In the meantime I need patience and love.

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Thanks for this response @mineopoly. Your perspective from living in Korea is very interesting. It reminds me a bit of how I felt in India, though my experience was much shorter so I didn't have the chance to get as deep into the culture as I'd like. The role of a foreigner as an intermediary is a beautiful, yet I would imagine frustrating thing. Beautiful because you are not expected to take sides, but frustrating because of the potential assumption by natives that you probably don't understand the subtleties since it's not your mother land.

When you talked about dissension in the family, I think a lot of your character was revealed. Being oriented more long term and choosing battles is often wise when it is tempting to prove that "you're right and the other person is wrong." That way lies death. I've experienced many relationships being weakened by an unwillingness to listen and understand. It's not easy, but it's worth it. If disagreements are extreme, the relationship may have to end, and that is ok too, but again—not so easy.

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