I agree, it's possible to just share our opinions with someone else with pushing them to pursue what we think they should be doing. I suppose it's really up to the individual that is saying it to know their own intentions and manage their own expectations as well. Like there is a difference between telling someone you think they need to get sober and you think they need to go find a job that they don't want to do because they need the money. The statement itself isn't necessarily aggressive or toxic, it's more about what comes afterwards and how we handle it. Mindfulness is key for sure. I'm in a meeting but I'll check out your post in just a bit, happy to hear from you!