I think that obviously is a complex interconnection of various influences. But if I have to talk about the different weight of that,
what I can say is that is more influent how we are perceived by others and their feedback when we are kids, but the ones that infuence our life in adulhood, that build the environment around us, is our perception.
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Yeah, this is true. A lot of things influences what/who we think we are. In the formative years, external influences from adult figures are more influential but this persist into adulthood. At this stage, perception of people around us also reinforces our idea of who we think we are. But I think, once we recognize this pattern, it is easier to disconnect and rebuild the sense of self.
Sometimes, the influences are subtle and almost psychic, thats why one of the best way to rebuild the self is to disconnect totally by relocating to a place where you're unknown. Here no one has any preconceived notion about you or you capabilities or how you should act and it's easier to rebuild the self this way.
I agree that it is a very complex process.
I also agree that how we are perceived by others tends to be more influential when we are younger especially when we are teenagers. Though it may decrease as we get older, I personally do not think that it ever goes away.
Thanks for the comment :)