Minnesota has this thing called "Minnesota nice." It's just exactly like you described of the Philippines. Only when you live there yourself do you discover that Minnesota nice isn't actually kindness, it's politeness, and it's often done begrudgingly.

It's one of the reasons I had to move from there. Everyone was very pleasant, but rawness and authenticity are some of the things I value most. I highly value a kindness and a caring when it comes from deep within as giving and sharing.

"Being nice" isn't so great. I equate it with being tolerable and polite. Boring!

Where I live now in North Carolina (in my specific city) people are really, genuinely kind. As you walk into the grocery store a little sad, a person walking by will look you in the eyes and share with you the warmest, most brightening smile. This is what I Value.

Following you! And resteemed.