the pessimists try to discourage you?
The pessimistic people are not only negative, they are also cynical and arrogant. Not only do they see infinities of problems in life, but they also thrive in these circumstances. Many of them will tell you flatly that they are not pessimistic but realistic. Nothing in his world is the color of roses. Many of these people are depressed, mentally unstable and feel that the world is the cruelest place in the universe. Maybe we need the pessimist to appreciate the optimist.
How can one deal with the constant problems of the pessimist? The pessimist has unrealistic expectations of life and continues to be pushed and dragged by darkness and by the problems of his circumstances. In many cases this type of person can not see the light at the end of the tunnel. They live in a miserable state of darkness, rawness and hostility.
Most pessimists believe that they are victims of circumstances or situations. They live trapped in the past. People who are attracted to feeling victimized tend to see events in their lives as something that happens to them and feel helpless and overwhelmed. They also operate under the basic assumption that the world should be fair, which is the way a child thinks.
They carry a sign that says: "Poor me!" And everything that happens to them is aimed at a childhood or past event. They can not leave the victim mode.
The best way to deal with victimization behavior is to realize their attitude. Make them aware every time they enter a pessimistic attitude and stop them. People can get angry when asked to analyze their attitude in a constructive way. It is important that you set aside critical and destructive thoughts. Help that person understand that they no longer live in the past and that they have the ability to create a new way of thinking.
Jealousy and an envious attitude are derived from insecurities. Most pessimists do not want to move forward because they think they will be disappointed. Therefore, they prefer to feed on toxic emotional behaviors to want what others have worked hard. In their own lack of self-esteem they can not understand why they are "unfortunate" or do not get what they justly deserve.
Most of the time, jealous people have no idea that they are envious. They do not see the disturbing pattern in their mental health. It is not uncommon for them to have anger or anger for not receiving what someone else has in their lives. Dealing with this type of behavior is like dealing with a selfish child. It can not make them understand what they are not prepared to face themselves. They already live in a state of negativity and any productive criticism will be taken as a rejection. It is best to reinforce their good qualities and help them find something to replace jealousy.