Cutting people out like weeds
My tolerance level is extremely low. I don't put up with any kind of bullshit or offense. I honestly don't have the energy anymore to patiently plead my case when people are being stupid or critical.
A former friend made a lengthy facebook post all about me but without naming me, and it hurt my feelings a little, but mostly it showed me that I was right when I told her she was too dramatic for me to be friends with, so I blocked her. And her daughter and her mom. Blip. Gone. Out of my life. I don't have the energy or desire to deal with this made up dramatic bullshit.
Another person came on my facebook and started criticizing me saying I was disrespectful and some stupid shit like that. Nope, not playing that game, lady - Block.
This is not limited to social media.
My crazy aunt called me up and yelled at me about my mom, told me she wanted to put a bullet in my mom's brain, and I told her to stop saying shit like that to me. She said it again, and I said (approximately) "I said I don't want to hear that shit. Don't fucking call me again." And I hung up, and I have never spoken to her again in almost two years. Fuck that noise. You don't make threats against my family, you just fucking don't. You know? And I have no regrets whatsoever.
I don't know if this is a healthy way of living life. Maybe you're supposed to engage people and problem solve with them. But I don't have the time or patience to do this. I honestly don't care enough to fight with people. I hate fighting, it's always so ridiculous, arguing back and forth is unnecessary drama that I won't do. If you want a fight you're not getting it from me unless you're in my face literally and I have to knock you in the mouth but that's like last resort shit.
I know this post makes me sound like a big asshole but I really am a pretty nice lady. And I give people a lot of leeway, I don't go blocking people who see things differently than I do, or severing friendships over a little bit of nothing. I think my boundaries are clear, I don't accept people policing my language, I don't accept racism, fascism, or nazism, I don't accept personal attacks on me or my loved ones, I don't accept general assholery. I think that's a pretty simple and straightforward way to be.
I just had to lay down some lines in a similar way. It's important to protect your own well being as a sensitive person, allowing others that space to harm you is just no good.
My well being is worth preserving, if anyone js harming my well being, we are done.
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It is absolutely healthy and sensible to set up boundaries and prune unhealthy relationships/habits/beliefs from one's life. Congratulations!
If something or someone is holding you down, burn that bridge. There is a secret zipline down stream to get back, in the unlikely event that you made a mistake.