How Do You Deal With A Tantruming Toddler? Seriously, How Do You?
This is more of a question expecting answers, instead of a how-to guide.
Before becoming a parent 18 months ago, I remember judging the parents of that child on the floor who was kicking and screaming his little lungs out, while they were so calm, obliviously looking the other way, completely ignoring their child. I couldn't understand how they could so casually not do anything to help that poor little child.
Now that it is happening to me, I think that calm those parents were displaying, was not calm at all, but a desperate way to keep calm. I've done some research on tantrums and found out some surprising yet strange things: don't let your child cry without talking to him, about the reasons why he's crying, and reassure him that you are there for him. On the other hand, do let your child to tantrum so that he can take out his frustrations. Still, make sure he knows that you are there and understand him.
Each child is different, what sets them off tantruming, how they tantrum, how to stop them from tantruming. I was at my friends' the other day, and their daughter who's the same age as my boy, starting crying and sobbing quietly, and the mom was like, 'oh she's tantruming again'. Whaaat? My little one will lie on the floor, kick his feet, move him arms, cry his lungs out. Nothing seems to stop him, unless he gets whatever sets him off.
At home I find it different and more comfortable to deal with this. Last week, evil daddy wouldn't let him play with the sharpest knife he saw on the kitchen counter. I let him take out his tantrum, while 'calmly' sitting on the couch. I was pleasantly surprised that after 3 minutes (or what felt like 3 hours), he came to me quietly, all good and ready to play.
But when we're at the playground in the park, and I turn into evil daddy again because I want to take him home after merely 4 hours and he starts a tantrum, I find it harder to let him do his thing. Maybe it's because I'm in a public place, I hallucinate hearing all these sighs and seeing all these eye-rolls, that I try to cheer him up by distracting him however I can, so I can get him home and over it.
How do you deal with a tantruming toddler, especially in a public place?
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unless its Intensive care unit, sleeping rooms or opera hall i just let her :)
i hardly care about eyerolls and sighing
we always mention how they go tantrum with no real reason, but we also have our tantrums as grown ups, just expressing it differently. and mostly without valid reason.
sometimes i join her in screaming (i know it sounds weird, it is)
but she never got anything by doing tantrum.
so that phase passed quick.
now she makes ambushes and hits with blunt weapons.
stick to tantrums as much as you can lol
That's great, thanks for the advice :) #wordsofwisdom :D
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Have you ever tried to have a tantrum, in front of your son, let him see how he is behaving. One day when my daughter was having a tantrum, becuase she dident want to bath, i just picked her uo, cloths on , and put her in the the bath. She got such a shock; but never had a problem with bathing again. Sometimes a drastic change in the norm of how we deal with life's situations can work wonders, iamstephen