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RE: Single Mom Curation Post! Interview of @wildempress

in #parenting7 years ago

Hi. I saw your post on Discord and glad I stopped by to read. What a fine post! As you stated, all moms are badass but the single moms are simply super! I know our kids give us the motivation and power to go through the every day activities like cleaning up another accident or preparing that new lunch or dinner dish that they refuse to even touch. I admire all moms especially the single ones. I have a supportive partner but even still, my energy is frayed by the end of the night.

You are right about the unfair stigmatization of being a single mom. My cousin once dated someone who could never get over the fact she had a son, who was the same age as his sibling. Needless to say, they separated and she found someone now who accepts her fully. Never settle for less. As a mom, my children are my first and foremost. No one has any right to judge anyone else for parenting. If the child is unkept and malnourished then the mom needs a lot more help from others. Lend a hand. We should never look at anyone with judgment or pity in our eyes.

I will stop @wildempress’s blog next. Thanks for highlighting her. Her photography work is awesome.

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Yess! Thank you for saying all this. I never want to diminish the hard work of any mother but also don't mean to compare struggles with any person... I just want to celebrate the often very hidden world of single moms, the part that makes us feel happy and strong. I want to let other people know how great some of it is , and all the cool stuff we learn along the way of having to look out for ourselves and care for our kids. Theres all this dumb stigma around dating too, where a lot of people have assumed I am looking for a baby daddy when it never has been farther from the truth for me (its okay with me if some moms are indeed looking for that! I wish it were easier to just want what we want without having to explain, haha) Anyways I always have dated on the side of my home life, and rarely have brought my dating life very close to my son. He has met the people I date, but I don't make him have to hang out with them or play family. I did that once and it was disastrous for me, and so I just never want to again. Anyway that can be the hardest side, is when a single mom is seeking romance or partnership she is taught to feel ashamed for having those desires, when committed coparenting couples go on dates and have sex and everything all the time with no shame! I have learned to not let this stigma bother me but it is there none the less. Another one is on the rare occassions where I go out late at night on a weekend, people used to always ask me where my son was. I would just tell them "He is out in the car" LOL. Its more fun thinking of the cool stuff people do than getting too bogged down by the negative. But the negative does exist!

I just want to celebrate the often very hidden world of single moms, the part that makes us feel happy and strong.

Very well-stated. I love that you are highlighting the author (in this case @wildempress) on her talents and inner beauty (of which she has an abundance of), not on the fact that she is a single mom and deserves the recognition for this fact alone.

Theres all this dumb stigma around dating too.

So true! All the things you mentioned, I witnessed my cousin going through it too. WTH people!

When I first came on steemit, I read a post about someone advising guys to stay away from the single moms. In that person's opinion, single moms will always choose their kid over the guy and it's not worth them dating one. I agreed with him on single moms choosing their child over the guy, of course they will! Every mom would do that, single or not.

Idiotic author. I left a polite enough comment that we will agree to disagree on this topic matter.

Anywho, it really is great what you're doing. I glanced down and saw you're looking to interview the single dads too? Hehe, awesome!

hahahaha that is the dumbest double standard i ever heard. Like if we forget our kids in the car to be with some guy they hate us, but if we hire a babysitter they hate us too. Jerks.

btw, I loved your comment about leaving the kids in the car. Lol. Can never win with some people.

hahahaha i just think its all so rediculous. They make THEMSELVES into stereotypes all saying the same thing over and over again ... repetition doesnt make it true! Also i am in a silly mood right now dont mind me lol

Be silly away. :) It's good to poke some fun at things. Or you'll go crazy at all the dumb things people think or do.

Haha, and I’m sitting here thinking , yes guys leave me alone’ I personally couldn’t be bothered with dating at this point in my life. I got all the things to do. 😋

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