No, not off the topic. It certainly plays into what my article was also about.

Institutional changes always happen very slowly, as I observe. I agree with everything you say, yet I think it's realistic that not all students are seen and promoted equally. Much depends on the student himself and what he brings to school. When I compare my school life with that of my son, I see many similarities with the past and also completely different things. I assume that if I had been taught a tailor-made, supportive, encouraging and competent way, it would very probably have led to me being more educated and self-confident than I was in some areas. But then I wonder at what times was the individual living under the best conditions? How do you see that?

In fact, this post from me is supposed to express that although I had an ordinary school time, none of my existing talents were promoted in a special way, I was raised and educated as an average person, this doesn't have to mean anything. It is precisely because of many adverse circumstances, personal history, and something you can't really grasp in terms of character traits that ultimately only matters how you judge your adult life, usually at an advanced age. The real maturity and the ability to make something out of the existing and even the smallest means is not the product of a childhood or school time alone and I would not emphasize the importance that one gives to the childhood as much as it often happens in psychology. I even consider this in parts to be less productive because I am no longer a child and every day I have the chance to contemplate my life and work on my habits. Even reframing and de-constructing my past.

This absolutely presupposes an alert consciousness, whenever - without knowing it - I am reminded by impulses of past unpleasant things (voices, malice, unfriendliness, unpleasant smells or facial expressions, etc.), which undermine my self-confidence, I can take countermeasures, since I notice how I feel at the moment: insecure, aggressive, suffering, cheerful, enthusiastic ... or even attentive to these things, which are then much more subject to my conscious control.

School is probably a hot potato because in this context we as parents often remember the negative experiences at school and every ugly remark made by our children reminds us of the difficulties with school. You would have to have a detector that beeps loudly every time you sit on a projection as a mother or father :)