RE: TELEPHONEBOOKS
Thank you for your friendly and interesting reply to my post.
It is a mystery, I think, why some people keep their openness, even though they had bad experiences and others did not. That is why I try to go over to always looking at things situatively and less fundamentally. To report on creative examples and to remain less in the complaint mode, which also haunts me at times.
Over the years of my reflections it has become clear to me that I can investigate such events and people that have had a motivating effect more thoroughly and put my focus on them. Which is very good for me. Most of life, be it human encounters or systemic preconditions, is sub-optimal and so one should emphasize even the smallest event, the seemingly less significant opportunities for oneself to give them greater weight. I argue for more negotiation and less condemnation in a situation that seems difficult rather than principled.
The work in which we can bring in our own creativity and curiosity can still be found even in the tasks considered inferior, if only we want to. One's own room for manoeuvre is always available as potency, one only has to make oneself aware of it. School is not optimal, perhaps never been, you are right. The support that takes place between teacher and pupil is always an exception, less the rule. In a certain way one's own innocence helps, unfortunately one cannot be intentionally naive, but it is always by mistake ;-) Naivety unfortunately has a bad reputation, but sometimes it is the best friend of man. If only others didn't understand themselves arrogantly as taught by life and their resignation wouldn't be so widespread. But "would have" and "should have" is not worth the leisure, is what I say to myself.
Greetings to you!
P.S. I was walking over to your blog but see that you mostly write Italian. From where exactly are you, if I may ask? We are going to visit Italy in the end of this month. I am very much looking forward to it.
you are right. I focus a lot on the school because in my opinion it has a fundamental importance to teach and spread the best values to the children who will then be the generations of the future. in a family it is difficult to enter, but the school, especially if it is public, has a great responsibility in the development of people. Pointing to the result and not the process is not a good example for them. if the school taught creativity, cooperation, welcoming children, they would understand that there are different possible perspectives, that change is a good thing, that failure is not only losing something but also the motivation that drives us in research. a person's difficulties must be understood and helped not judged. this person should not be ridiculed and left behind, indeed it requires more investment on it. I don't know, maybe I went off topic! :-)))
No, not off the topic. It certainly plays into what my article was also about.
Institutional changes always happen very slowly, as I observe. I agree with everything you say, yet I think it's realistic that not all students are seen and promoted equally. Much depends on the student himself and what he brings to school. When I compare my school life with that of my son, I see many similarities with the past and also completely different things. I assume that if I had been taught a tailor-made, supportive, encouraging and competent way, it would very probably have led to me being more educated and self-confident than I was in some areas. But then I wonder at what times was the individual living under the best conditions? How do you see that?
In fact, this post from me is supposed to express that although I had an ordinary school time, none of my existing talents were promoted in a special way, I was raised and educated as an average person, this doesn't have to mean anything. It is precisely because of many adverse circumstances, personal history, and something you can't really grasp in terms of character traits that ultimately only matters how you judge your adult life, usually at an advanced age. The real maturity and the ability to make something out of the existing and even the smallest means is not the product of a childhood or school time alone and I would not emphasize the importance that one gives to the childhood as much as it often happens in psychology. I even consider this in parts to be less productive because I am no longer a child and every day I have the chance to contemplate my life and work on my habits. Even reframing and de-constructing my past.
This absolutely presupposes an alert consciousness, whenever - without knowing it - I am reminded by impulses of past unpleasant things (voices, malice, unfriendliness, unpleasant smells or facial expressions, etc.), which undermine my self-confidence, I can take countermeasures, since I notice how I feel at the moment: insecure, aggressive, suffering, cheerful, enthusiastic ... or even attentive to these things, which are then much more subject to my conscious control.
School is probably a hot potato because in this context we as parents often remember the negative experiences at school and every ugly remark made by our children reminds us of the difficulties with school. You would have to have a detector that beeps loudly every time you sit on a projection as a mother or father :)
yes, we are italian, even if in this period we are between spain and portugal !! have you already planned your stops in Italy? Can I help you?
Thank you for your offer. We are lazy and rented a house in Greve in Chianti near Florence (it was said it is about a 30 Minute train ride). We come with the auto-train and then use our car for the rest of the holidays. We certainly will visit Siena and Florence as well as I plan to go to Orvieto and Volterra. Are you staying for longer in Spain?
it seems like a great program! and tuscany is one of the best choices you could have made!
As for us, I don't think we'll be back before Christmas :-))
Yes, I think so, too. I visited Tuscany 19 years ago and kept many lovely memories. So this time it will be a revival.
Have a good stay where you are and a safe journey back home.