This is a delicate issue cos when a man marries a woman, he's automatically married to the woman's family and vice versa . But I still think everything here starts and ends with the man. A man who's not oblivious of his family's humiliation towards his dear wife, should do all it takes to protect her from them. As a man, I won't allow you (be you my mother or father) cast aspersions on my wife. The day you try it will be the last day I will allow an atmosphere of a physical meeting between the both of you.