Could just Divorce the wife I mean, that's how logical people who have clear understanding of appropriate action for cultivating the appropriate response do it. Even more logical people choose to go into a relationship with both eyes open and not get married to someone who's going to break your "soul" in due time but that's rare still. No I would not give back the money I would go some where warm and retire and not tell my wife or the cops a thing. Moral fiber starts with not robbing the bank to begin with.