FOUR FIRST PRINCIPLES FOR GREAT RELATIONSHIPS
The quality of your life comes down to the quality of your relationships. With your family , with your friend, with your loved ones, with your self.
People are not born with natural abilities to develop and build great relationships with others. These are skills like any other that can be learned and mastered if one recognizes the need and takes the time and effort to develop them.
We can all become better relationship builders by clearing our minds and practicing a few basic necessary acts.
Commit to insanely great relationships and you will have an insanely great life. And being a great human collector is pretty easy stuff. Remember success is all about a masterful consistency around fundamentals.
Everyone needs someone to learn from and share ideas with. Good relationships offer understanding when you fail, confidence when you're in doubt, and celebration as you go through life. They also allow you opportunities to give, to mentor, and to share.
Take time to nurture and appreciate the relationships that make a difference in your business and your life.
We all need that someone in our life who's going to motivate us and not stress us, and then we need to treat him the same way we want to be treaded, and no lies, we say what we mean and mean what we say. and always try to build together not destroy each other, if the outcome isn't what you expected, at least you can say you tried., but also remember that pressure makes diamonds people. not everything will be easy between you and me and him and her and them. its all give and take.. reward and sacrifice. try to love those who love you, not just the ones who are easiest to love, try to help those who need you, may you will need the help someday. try to forgive those who hurt you, may you hurted someone once upon a time and try to forget those who leave you, may god knew that they aren't good for you. one of my main goals on the planet is to encourage people to empower themselves like what im trying now, i try to makes you positive, to make a positive change in your life, it will never happen unless me or you or him or her make it happen. they said "be the change you want to see in the world" im like that and i would like everyone to be like me.
The following four first principles are profoundly simple and yet simply profound and isnt that the case for all great truths?
SAY HELLO FIRST
Be the first to say hello or whatever may be appropriate when you encounter another person. Saying hello might feel a little awkward at first, but it is actually appreciated by people more than you might think. Let's be honest, saying hello to people is just a courtesy - one you should have learned at nursery. Greetings should be as basic as "please" and "thank you" in our daily lives. Say hello first help to improve your communication, which takes courage because we are all sacred of rejection.
Everyone wants to be recognised for the good things we do in our careers. Saying hello to people first might get you noticed, and you might then get the recognition you deserve once people actually know who you are.
Each time a person passes by you and you say 'hello', imagine that person turning into a candle. The more positivity, love and light you reflect, the more light is mirrored your way. Sharing beautiful hellos is the quickest way to earn spiritual brownie points. You should start seeing hellos as small declarations of faith. Every time you say hello to a stranger, your heart acknowledges over and over again that we are all family.
SMILE A LOT
It is one of the best ways to have someone open up, A smile is the best way to express positivity. It may impress some, or just make them wonder of how one can be so happy all the time.
Human beings tend to attach movements and gestures with certain qualities naturally. For instance if a person smiles at you, waving a ‘ hi' every now and then, you'll automatically relate him with humbleness, happiness and what not! to you. Remember we make lasting impressions on people within the first few minutes of meeting them.
Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.
USE PEOPLE'S NAMES
The sweetest sound to a person’s ear is their own name.” Remember this and apply it. You have probably noticed that most people don’t use names in the midst of a conversation. Be the exception. For instance, greet someone with his or her name or use the name when you ask them a question, and he or she will love you for it. Doing this has the added bonus of helping you to remember that person’s name the next time you see them. Don’t go overboard or it seems weird.
Use peoples names is really important. It shows that you care and is a mark of respect.
A person’s name is the greatest connection to their own identity and individuality. Some might say it is the most important word in the world to that person.
It is the one way we can easily get someone’s attention. It is a sign of courtesy and a way of recognizing them. When someone remembers our name after meeting us, we feel respected and more important. It makes a positive and lasting impression on us. To not remember a name, especially when someone has had to repeat it several times, is to make that person feel slighted.
There are many reasons and excuses people give for not remembering names (bad memory, poor listening, not paying attention, self-absorption, age). Perhaps you believe you are “not good” at learning or remembering other’s names. This may be true, but it doesn’t mean you can’t improve.
ALWAYS MAKE A EYES CONTACT WHEN SPEAKING WITH PEOPLE
Making eye contact can be tricky, especially if you are shy, or nervous, but good eye-contact is important for building trust and building good relàtionship. Even if you struggle to hold eye-contact now, all it takes is a little practice to confidently hold someone's gaze.
So much can be said in a glance. Such ambiguous intensity, both invasive and vulnerable—glittering black, bottomless and opaque. The eye is a keyhole, through which the world pours in and a world spills out. And for a few seconds, you can peek through into a vault, that contains everything they are. But whether the eyes are the windows of the soul or the doors of perception, it doesn't matter: you're still standing on the outside of the house. Eye contact isn't really contact at all. It's only ever a glance, a near miss, that you can only feel as it slips past you.
There’s so much we keep in the back room. We offer up a sample of who we are, of what we think people want us to be. But so rarely do we stop to look inside, and let our eyes adjust, and see what's really there. Because you too are peering out from behind your own door. You put yourself out there, trying to decide how much of the world to let in. It's all too easy for others to size you up, and carry on their way. They can see you more clearly than you ever could. And yours is the only vault you can't see into, that you can't size up in an instant.
So we're all just exchanging glances, trying to tell each other who we are, trying to catch a glimpse of ourselves, feeling around in the darkness.