Men, grind like you are losing in life to have significant value in society.
This is something I want men to understand that they don't seem to. You have to work like you don't have anything in your pocket. The idea of equal expectations of men to women are not the same. In order to be valued, men have to work for it, women don't have to on the same level.
Often men from an early age are not taught this. They are taught how being just average will be enough. No goals no nothing. So when reality hits, it shocks. You cannot work like an average man. You have to have next level work ethic, no procrastination, no excuses.
Men and women are taught about the feminist narrative that everyone is equal and they get the impression that therefore you have to do equal to be equal. But this is not true even in 2020. We are different, we have different expectations of each other, boys and girls as young as 10 need to hear this. Or else they are in for some deep stuff.
The good thing is once you work to that position, you are of value, people will respect you more, and you have more power in society automatically, or at least within your circles. Money talks too, and money is one attribute that men are judge upon. Here are some qualities:
Money and Status: Even women that are not gold diggers are more often than not attracted to someone with higher status. Sure women are married to broke men too, but that is either a compromise they are putting up with, or they fell in love already. But when it comes to that, the woman has to know you to be able to fall in love with you. But it does not help at all when you are broke, and there are plenty of other men that are not. Given all things equal, they will choose the money route.
Looks: Height will be a huge factor but your style, dress sense, hair, facial grooming, being in shape matters. Don't let anyone tell you it does not. If you are overweight and want to lose weight, start with urgency. If you want to gain some muscle, start with urgency.
Have a healthier lifestyle, with good diet and things like that, Being a man takes a lot, and a healthy mind and body is important.
Work ethic, discipline and driven: You have to work your ass off. No one likes lazy people. And someone who grinds hard is more likely to make things happen. Discipline and being persistent in your pursuit for your goals. Do you think successful men got to where they were without working hard like this?
Charismatic and being able to be out there: Got to develop this. It is important to be fearless. No matter what people say, not being able to take risk is not considered masculine. You WILL be considered to be below someone who is putting effort to be out there in life.
Being able to say no: This is a big one. A lot of men will not say no to keep peace. You have to establish what your purpose is in life, and you have to be able to say no when it affects your purpose. Being agreeable will be seen as someone who is weak and people, especially women will lose respect if you do this too much. Eventually people will respect you no matter what they say at first. If they don't then that is not your problem. It is hard to see someone as a leader when you cannot say no.
Adding value and leaving a legacy: How do you add value to your circle and society. You don't have to be the one that creates flying cars or invent anything crazy in society, but you have to offer something to your circle, which ultimately also translate to value in society. Helping others through your work.
Sympathy is reserved not for you, so do not expect it. If you cannot provide, protect and guard you are family, you will be looked at in disgust. But when you do fulfil these categories, you will be the prize. That is the pros and cons of being a man and men should understand. I wish I was told this when I was younger.
Always remember death is around the corner, you have a limited amount of time. Once you accept this you will live with urgency and more likely to achieve your goals.
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https://dailyburn.com/life/fitness/hypertrophy-training-how-to-build-muscle-fast/
https://www.quotemaster.org/Floyd+Mayweather