If a word is more commonly used for one gender than another, it doesn't mean that it's favored or disfavored in that gender.

There are at least three possible explanations for that phenomenon:

1. It is favoured or disfavoured in that gender, as you suggest.
2. The behaviour is more common in that gender.
3. The choice of word is different per gender. For example a male demonstrating the same behaviour may be referred to as dominating, authoritarian or strict, since they are essentially the same attitudes but those words are more associated with men.