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Hi friends, hope you all are doing good? It is joy to me to have time and passion in seeking for everyone's success. I never ceased praying for you that you must believe me.

Today I have just a short note for us to ponder and adjust to advance. I discourage idleness and laziness so if you are in/on this platform please get busy with something.
My short note is on a woman called Ruth
Ruth received favor to marry Boaz, but the coaching of Naomi was necessary before that could happen!
Friends, in life no matter who you are and what you know or have, Human coaching is necessary, you need to submit and learn from someone. It will spare you from silly mistakes and provides you wings or feathers to fly.

Factors to consider
When you're looking for a mentor , start by thinking about your career path and narrowing down a few leaders who have your dream job, or whom you admire, said Bill Driscoll, a district president for Accountemps.

"Successful mentoring relationships happen when the mentor and mentee are the right match," Driscoll said.

Look at Jesus, all the people had same assurance: follow me and I will make you. What this means is that a mentor should have the capacity to make a life positive impact in the life of his mentee. Now consider...

1. Determine exactly what you need.
   What skills do you need to learn right now versus in a year from now?
   Career development is never linear, the same mentor who can support you today may not have the skills to help you five years from now. That’s why you need to analyze your current development needs before your future ones.
   Your mentor needs to help you succeed in the present before grooming you for the future.

2. Weigh the mentor’s strengths and weaknesses.
   Especially as they relate to your style.
   Don’t bend over backward changing your work style to accommodate a someone else’s lessons. You can spend your energy in better ways. Nobody is perfect - not me, not you and not your potential mentor. Is this person going to complement your style or clash with it?
   Look for these qualities to start:
   Empathy
   Honesty and practiced communication skills
   Lateral thinking
   Lifelong dedication to learning

3. Are your world views and philosophies aligned?
   You can’t force this.
   Take a good, hard look at your proposed mentor’s outlook on life, your field and company’s values before committing. The odds of finding someone who matches you 100 percent are slim and a moot point if you are going to grow into an -improved and therefore different -- version of yourself over time. Focus on life philosophies, such as: learning, determination, thoughtfulness and trust.

4. The mentor must be a good listener.
   Mentors are like hiking guides. They haven’t always experienced the same paths that you have taken, and they shouldn’t spoon-feed answers to you even if they have. Instead, they need to help mentees overcome their challenges without taking the reins directly.
   If this person helps you to develop your own answers with insights rather than just their own strong opinions then you may be on to something. On the other hand, a mentor who does most of the talking and turns away your ideas regularly is a poor bet.
   Ultimately you want someone who knows when to give you a reality check, who can tell you to go for it when the time is right and who helps you to reflect on the most important lessons - even if it means the occasional setback. Your mentor needs to let you scrape your knees now and again to let you learn from your failures, but also pull you back from the edge of the precipice when you’re about to step off the edge. And this mentor-to-be can’t do any of that without practiced listening skills.

5. Does this person challenge you?
   They should! You won’t learn anything new if your mentor doesn’t get you to consider new perspectives. Keeping in mind that your mentor should share broad philosophies with you, think very carefully about this person’s ability to bounce ideas back and forth with you too. You want someone who shares similar threads of experience with you - be it the approaches they took or the challenges they overcame in the past.
   Younger people can make the mistake that mentors know better simply because they claim seniority. Those mentors rarely ever succeed, even if they think otherwise. But it’s important that anyone seeking out a mentor understands the difference between someone who deliberately teaches mentees by challenging their stances when it counts instead of dismissing their ideas routinely

6. Can you return the favor?
   Mentors are supposed to get value out of your relationship as well as you. *And some of these are obvious -gaining a successor, a new pillar of management in the company or a new business connection. But like the rest of us, mentors have their own immediate needs and priorities.

It pays to give back to your mentors, as they will be inclined to stay engaged in the relationship for longer. Successful mentorships are two-way streets in which the mentor learns new things as well - not by calling on the same experience that a mentor brings, but by bringing insights about new developments not present when the mentor was younger.
Choosing the wrong mentor can set back your career instead of fast-tracking it. Be strategic about what you need to learn, make sure your styles complement each other, and bring something to the table in exchange for teaching you to learn from failure. Choosing the right mentor can be the most important career decision you’ll ever make.

Tonight take your diary and list out areas you feel you are lacking. Secondly, list out people you respect that you believe you can submit to for mentoring. After making your list tonight make them your prayer points tonight and let God have the final say over them. As you wake tomorrow's morning contact the people God directed u to or u feel strongly convinced. Tell them you are submitting for mentorship