How a careless teenager turned into a (step)mom - Part five - NOW WHAT

'HOW A CARELESS TEENAGER TURNED INTO A (STEP)MOM'

(life of a girl who survived domestic violence and stalking, fighting for a better life)

Welcome to the FIFTH day I'm participating in the #monthlyauthorchallenge!
I'm really excited to join the challenge! Why? Because I would love to share some bits of my life with you.
I think it might surprise you and even shock you 😉

DAY 5 NOW WHAT?

Yesterday I told you about my marriage at the age of 17 and having my baby when I just turned 18.
So now I was a young mom. Now what? I had to make some decisions..

My in-laws opinion was that I had to stay at home, so I could be a good mother and wife.
My own opnion was a LITTLE BIT different... Of course I wanted to be a good mother and a good wife, but I'm a little to emancipated for that way of thinking...
Don't get me wrong.. I loved spending time with my baby! But after a while I was 'Roy's wife', I was 'Mirthe's mom', but I wasn't just 'Betty' anymore. 😅
I wanted to go back to college. I'd already got my foundation degree for primary school teacher just before @mirthe was born, but I decided to switch and go to the university of applied sciences to do social work.

I loved studying. I loved taking classes. I loved being called 'Betty' again!
But there was this dilemma... Should I study 4 years in a row and get more kids after getting my bachelor? That would mean that Mirthe would be 5 years old at least before she'd get a sibling. Hmm, not ideal..
Or should we just leave it to chance? We chose the second option, which meant that I was pregnant again at the age of 19. 😁 I was really happy with it!
In the mean time my mom helped me out by babysitting Mirthe. We didn't have a car, so I had to take the train to college. My mom lived in the city between where I lived and where I had to be for college, so I took Mirthe with me in the train and threw her out of the train as soon as I saw my mom. (I did it while the train was standing still)

You know, being pregnant while you're young has it's benefits.. I went to birthing class.
OMG what can I say about birthing class without being offensive? I felt like a dolphine between a group of whales. Ok, maybe that's offensive.. Sorry!
And then you have these lessons with the partners where you have to look in each others eyes and practice how to pant.. AND ALL THOSE PEOPLE DID IT WITHOUT PEEING THEIR PANTS!! Except for me, I just couldn't..
While all those whales were struggling to turn their but, I felt like I could easily do a handstand.
(Noooo, I didn't! I was young, but not stupid!)

I was a little bit worried.. I didn't think that I could love anybody as much as I loved Mirthe. But WOW, I was DEEPLY IN LOVE when I saw @lotje for the first time!

I had this beautiful family now! What could go wrong? We would live happily ever after!
Right?

Stay tuned!

-Thank you for your interest! I would love to hear something from you! Please leave a comment and I'll get back to you 😊 Hope to see you back tomorrow! Love you 😘!-