Good point. It's not all about the money with these relationships, it's control. If you were to hand the abused $10,000 to leave, they still may not be able to.

I read an article awhile back that recommended that women have a "fuck off fund." So when your partner seems to turn and become controlling, or your boss does something inappropriate, or your roommate turns into a monster, you don't for a moment have to think about staying in a bad relationship for the financial support. You can instantly tell that partner, roommate, or boss, "fuck off" and you won't be homeless.

I guess that's just emergency savings. It's more fun to call it a fuck off fund though.