How To Deal With The Feeling Of A Missed Opportunity; Don't Cry Over Dropped Ice Cream

So who here has missed an investment or startup stage that they wished that had taken a part it?  I'm guessing we are all raising our hands.  I'm sure even the smartest people have missed a company they probably wished they had invested their time or money in.  You are not alone.  Yeah it can leave you with that punch in the gut feeling.                  

Take A Deep Breath.             

FUCK!             

Feel better?           

Yeah there is going to be a period of frustration.  Go for a run or hit the gym.  Blow it off.  But don't dwell on it.  There will ALWAYS be another opportunity to capatilze on.  That is the secret. But if you waste your time with regret of what could have been you are going to miss out on what is coming next.  Keep looking forward and keep looking outward. If you are focused on your field it is easy to feel like another opportunity like the one that passed in your field will not happen again in your lifetime.  The key is realizing it may not be in your field.  It may be something you have never heard of.  Take steemit for example.  How many people knew nothing of blockchains but learned about it and spotted an opportunity when the site was new and even now as it is still growing?  This carries over to everything. There will always be a next big thing and if you are willing to widen your scope (if only for investment purposes) you will pick up on more of them.  It takes a little more work then when it is something that is in your scope of expertise, but taking some time to spot an opportunity while still staying in your field can help you build the capitial you need to continue to pursue your field of choice.              

Remeber you didn't actually lose anything. I know me telling you this is probably not helping, but it is true.  Losing an opportunity is not the same as losing something you actually have.  If you knew about the opportunity after the fact, knew about it before and decided not to do anything or didn't know about it at all, the results are all the same.  Technically, even if the opportunity never existsed, you are in the same boat then if it did and you didn't act.  What is causing any frustration is the knowing that you have missed out, which means, quite literally, that it is all in your head.  There are probably dozens of opportunities you are missing a month that are not even on your radar and you don't loss sleep over an of them (and no, don't start thinking about all those other missed opportunities).  The loss of what could have been hits as badly as if we actually had it.  It is even something you might feel more suddenly than losing something you actually had.  That is because we, as forward thinkers, are visualizing what will be and since that is what is in our head, we feel the lose of possibilites quite instantly.  While feeling the loss for something you had may take more time as we tend to take for granted what is in our life.   So dust yourself off, raise your head and look forward to the next big thing.

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