How to Trust Other People If You Are Having Trust Issues...

Hello, Steemians!

We have all had instances of our life when we regret trusting someone. When your trust is betrayed, it is hard to trust someone again, and that jeopardizes most of our relationships.

When your trust is repeatedly broken, your mind develops a defense mechanism which prevents the people you meet from ever having the chance to betray your trust.

Your mind will create a pre-emptive routine that involve keeping a discernible distance with other people, both physically and emotionally.

How can we mend our broken heart and learn how to trust again?

Psychologists unanimously agree that if someone is not capable of trusting other people, the roots of this skepticism can be traced back to even their childhood.

Most people who can’t trust others have usually been betrayed of felt abandoned from an early age.

This mistrust has found deep roots in their subconscious, thus making it difficult to connect to other people on an intimate level and learn how to trust them.

A lot of people find it difficult to allow other people to enter their lives. Their emotional comfort zone compels them to push people out or run away from them.

Someone might even go so far as to betray his own feelings and the other person before they have a chance to betray him.
As hard as it might sound, if we are struggling with mistrust, we need to erase our past and look hopefully into the future.

You should be wary when you are dealing with new people, but that doesn’t mean you have to live in a bubble and never trust them enough to open up to them and share the things that bother you.

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When someone betrays you, it is not strange to reflect on your beliefs about honesty and conscience. But you need to remember that not all people are like the one you have had the misfortune to deal with.

Remember that there are a lot of good people out there, such as yourself, who would never betray someone’ trust and break word with them.

You also need to tell yourself that trust is not absolute. When you get to meet someone for the first time in your life, you can hardly trust them. It is not your fault.

Trust needs time and dedication. There are many levels to trust, and it should not be as absolute as suggesting that you can either trust someone or always be wary of him altogether.

You might really like someone and know that deep down they are a good person, but you cannot also bring yourself to fully trust them, because you know that they have the potential to one day betray your trust.

You decide to trust people like that, but to an extent, and will always be cautious when dealing with them.

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If you are not sure about whether you can trust someone or not, look at the pattern of their behavior.

That will tell you all you need to know about who he is and how he would react under certain situations. The subtle art of being observant can be useful here, as you need to monitor that person constantly for at least a short period of time.

Always listen to your own voice of reason. Sometimes we are tempted to trust people and give them a chance when they don’t really deserve it.

If you know someone who is always talking behind other people’s backs, you can be sure that he will do the same to you.

Last but not least, remember that if you are feeling betrayed, you need some time to heal.

Do not expect yourself to be able to immediately trust someone else.

Deciding not to trust people ever again is not a rational choice.

You need to learn how to look past their mistakes and take experience and wisdom from your own.

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If someone has betrayed your trust recently, you will need time to heal.

Do not be concerned over this, for time is the greatest healer of all, and eventually, you will find yourself capable of trust again.

Until then, decide that your misfortune in trust is not going to undermine your belief about being positive and trusting.

A BIG HUG!

@chbartist

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