"According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence(NCADV), 1 in 3 women, and 1 in 4 men have been victims of some form of domestic violence in their lifetime.." Well, yes, thats skewed tbh. For one thing, if you ask about the past year instead of lifetime, it is much closer to parity.
The reality i would suggest looks much more grim. Likely for both parties.
This study specificly trying to investigate Reciprocal vs Nonreciprocal IPV found that nearly a quarter of all relationships involve intimate partner violence. Half (49.7%) of those reciprocal, the rest primarily(over 70%) perpetrated exclusivly by the female partner.
Now, if 24% of the 18761 heterosexual relationships surveyed involved IPV, the lower limit of how many people will have experienced IPV will be at least 24% of all people - assuming everyone only has one relationship in his lifetime.
Interrestingly enough though, in genral if you ask for lifetime, women report a higher rate, if you ask about the last year, however, you tend to find parity at least... A difference that isnt surprising if you consider how unreliable our memory is and how much our brain tends to rewrite our memories to conform to societal norms...
You know, if you ask people after an accident what role the man in the red jacket played, many will say he caused the accident - even though there was nobody in a red jacket.
Seems about right, 100% of my relationships involved a violent female partner. Well, in one case physicly violent, in the other "im crazy and if you dont do X ill hurt myself" (well, she was crazy or more precisly i think it would be shizophrenia... wasnt very long, that THAT wasnt a good idea was pretty damn clear).
The other somehow managed to convince me that she was my only option - sure, she was also physicly violent but a few scratches, not a big deal - even as countless other girls propositioned me. Some even knowing that she exists.
In the end, what i told her might happen did happen - i suffered another depressive episode - now that isnt related to anything going on in my life, thats biochemical. By now, its not a big deal for me anymore as i can live with that when it happens and smoke some weed to normalise my brainchemistry - but back then... Well, it was only my second episode so i wasnt yet used to it to the degree i am now. And while i tried to make sure early on that that wouldnt be a problem, it did lead to the end of the relationship.
By now i decided to do what feminists according to their words want: Not interacting with women, staying at home, living from feminists taxes through welfare and therby combatting the wage gap (well, yes, i am legitimatly disabled, multiple sclerosis among other things, but we dont have to tell them about that, do we?).
Somehow i doubt theyll hold me up as a feminist icon, despite this being what they according to their own words would logicly want.
Sorry it's taken me so long to reply to your comment.. been very busy in my personal life.
I do agree however that the rates of violence are much higher than anyone would admit. My personal opinion is that women are more often violent than men, but men cause more damage when they are violent. Then there's the fact that men don't want to report violence for fear of looking weak, or they just don't even consider it abuse.
To the delight of feminists, I think men's silence, and/or lack of care about violence perpetrated against them in their own personal relationships, causes the numbers to seem as though women are always the victim in domestic violence cases, and men are always the perpetrator. This has been shown to me in my own personal relationships.. one in particular where a girl attacked me during a fight, caught me off guard and shoved me into a wall. I'm twice her size, so it didn't hurt me.. I'm also a very easy going person, so I wasn't about to let it escalate from there. However, she had told me about how violent her ex-husband was and knowing that many men don't have as much patience as I do, I could see her provoking a short-tempered person into becoming violent by attacking him over and over again. If a woman hits, shoves, verbally abuses or otherwise mistreats a man over and over again, I have a hard time feeling sympathy for her when he knocks her ass out.