I would like to recognize all the people who shared their personal stories on this post. You have all demonstrated great strength and courage.I truly believe that pain shared is pain lessened. When we share our pain and tell our truths we can begin to take our power back and no longer can identify as victims. When we share our stories we find out that we are not alone. We find a purpose and a reason for the injustices that we had to suffer. Our stories are a gift for those who can identify with us. Our courage gives them courage, Our Strength gives them hope. The only way we can all heal is to expose our darkness to the light. What grows in the dark , dies in the light
You're right, totally right.
When we hide these things away we harm the next person and the next and the next. But speaking out is so difficult. We fear blame and ridicule (I know I did) - maybe it was somehow my fault. I encouraged it?
It won't stop until everyone is aware of the damage this does. We're all damaged by this - not only the abused, but the abusers too. They are damaged by the fact that they believe they can do this and while the damage doesn't cause them harm, it causes harm to those they further abuse and those they teach.
I'm so sorry you went through what you did.
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I have had the opportunity to tell my story in front of large groups of people over the last 5 years. You would be amazed at how many people come up to me after I speak and say me too. One young man said came up to me and said that he had heard me speak 2 years prior and he now had the courage to tell me his story. When he was finished he put his arms around me and cried. I have also had the abusers come up to me and share their guilt and share their personal stories of abuse. I believe that abuse happens way more than we realize and you are right. It is very hard to talk about. That why people like you need to lead the way and tell your story./ It makes it more comfortable for other to share their stories