STIs or STDs. How many of you are well aware of STIs or STDs?

STIs, Sexually Transmitted Infections or also referred to STDs or Sexually Transmitted Disease is a form of infections that can be passed during coitus, anal sex and also which people mistakenly thought it is the safest which is oral sex. Make it be between a male and a female or between male and male and the list goes on. You got the idea right?

The causes of these infections are bacteria, parasites, yeast and viruses. These infections are really common and to those who are infected will not know that they have it because it doesn’t show any symptoms. STDs can be dangerous, the good news is that getting tested is not a big deal and most STDs are easy to treat.

There are more than 20 types of STDs. The most common that we usually hear are Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis B, Herpes, HIV & AIDS, HPV (Human Papillomavirus), Scabies, Syphilis, Trichomoniasis and so forth.

The infection can affect both men and women, but it is prone to women. Let say if the woman is pregnant and she has STD, it can actually cause serious health problem for the baby.

Yes, some STDs caused by bacteria, yeast or parasites can be treated with the help of antibiotics. However, the STDs caused by virus cannot be cured permanently although with the correct medications; it only helps with the symptoms and keep the disease under control.

You can read it more online to know more on the infections. Which infections are curable and what not?

The reason why I bring up this issue is because generally, people in Malaysia are lacking on the awareness of sex education. All they think about was, if the children are taught sex education in school it will make them want to have sex more. They don’t see the positivity that will came out of it like how to practice safe sex, how to avoid unwanted pregnancy, how to protect yourself from STDs. Since the cases of abuse towards children are increasing due to work stress or external factors, might as well we do something about it to prevent it from happening from the start. All the parents have to do is to practice safe sex. I’ve heard somewhere, actually a couple of times from Malay parents and also from Chinese and Indian friends of mine that Muslim aren’t allowed to wear condom. I don’t know where this stigma comes from. So, I Google it and found this. It is a Q&A session.

Question:

Can Muslim do sex with his wife by using condom to control birth or it is not permissible in Islam and it is Sin in Islam?

Answer:

Islam has permitted the spacing of children in marriage, if one wished to do so. It has been reported in authentic narrations that some of the noble companions of the Messenger of Allah used to practice coitus-interruptus, whereby the male organ is removed from the female organ just before ejaculation.

Most of the scholars of Islam are on the opinion, that there is no harm if one wished or tries to space the birth of ones child, or even uses one of the modern forms of birth control to space the ages of their children. But all of them are absolutely unanimous in their opinion that any form of permanent birth control is absolutely forbidden in Islam.

You can view more by clicking here: http://www.islamhelpline.net/node/6562

Apparently to the scholars of Islam, wearing condoms are like prevention or so called like a killing spree. Why would they do that since they are in a halal or legal relationship. So doesn’t it mean that to those men and women has undergone vasectomy or getting their tube tied will be facing hellfire because it is a form of permanent birth control? I don’t want to be the judge of that. Just a thought, though.

I think the biggest challenge in Malaysia is the usage of condoms among men. To them, it is a petty issue. They will always come up with excuses like “I don’t feel comfortable wearing it”, “I will not cum inside you” and etc. It is not about comfortableness or he will not cum inside. How sure are you on the chances of not getting pregnant when he doesn’t cum in you? There are still chances of pregnancy here ladies. Some don't get themselves check and also swapping partners without protection. That is how STDs spread.

Last week Monday (16 July 2018), I went to the Doctor to get myself checked for STDs because my partner wants me to do it for his piece of mind (and also mine) although deep down inside, I know that I’m clean but he just want to make sure anyways. The normal procedure was to give your urine sample and also to do a blood test. The sample will be sent to the lab for testing.

I also had undergone my first pap smear in 28 years. The procedure was horrid! You have to spread your legs wide, the nurse will insert an instrument that looks like a duck beak where they will spread your labia open. After that, she will use a stick with bristle at the top and swap you cervix wall for samples to be sent to the lab and get it tested whether you are prone to cancer or not. I actually can feel when the bristles are against my cervix wall. I had goose bumps.

It was one hell of an anticipation waiting for the result to come out. And finally the results are here! I proudly to announce that I am free from any STDs and HIV. And also I am cancer free. Alhamdulillah.