Love and Relationships: The Small Things
How many relationships have you been in, that were long term commitments, lasting for about at least two years. One day, you wake up and the relationship has changed. Did you ever stop, and look back to figure out what changed and why? How often has someone told you it’s the small things that matter the most. The phone calls here and there or the random text messages telling someone you miss them. How do you know, if your partner is having a bad day. That one small text message you send could totally change the bad day into a good day.
Some of us don’t have the luxury of living with our significant others, where concerns of making the other person feel loved or wanted isn’t a problem. For those of us who do not live with our partners, nor do we physically see them as we please, what do you do when time doesn’t permit you to have the three hour phone conversations? In all honesty, it’s not what you do that keeps the spark in the relationship; it’s how consistent you are doing it.
When you are off in your own world, doing whatever it is that you’re doing have you paused for a minute to think about your partner? Have you told them you love them, or you missed them, or sorry for not spending as much time with them, but ending it with a promise to make that up? Are you sending the text messages or quick emails when you have a free minute? I know, some of us are so busy that we don’t have a free minute, but I’ve always felt that if you have time to use the bathroom, then you have time for a quick text or thought to share with them.
Your feelings toward the one you love shouldn’t feel like a chore, but more so should make you excited. When you start showing that you are no longer concerned with talking to them, sharing your happy and sad moments when they may happen, then you are making the person your with feel very much unwanted and not needed in your life.
This is why I stress the importance of the small things. Being random and spontaneous could encourage a healthy relationship. Forgetting to care or the lack of showing care or concern only makes your partner feel worse in the relationship. I ask that you sit back now, and take a look at your current relationship. If you’re having communication problems, did it ever occur to you that the lack of affection you might be showing them has them confused on the state of the relationship? That perhaps the act of feeling close is not present, because both people are running in the opposite direction.
Pause. Take this time to recollect your thoughts and feelings, and I ask you to reach out to your partner and tell them you love them. Thank them for being so patient with you, while you may be going through something else in your life or career. Acknowledge how patient they are. Make them feel whole again. Do something small, which will have a great impact.
…..One Love…