13 Ways To Respond To An Ex Who Hurts You

Breaking up with someone you loved can be a painful experience for anyone to have. The pain and anger of it can be overwhelming and unforgettable, it may seems that the agony of it will not end. When an Ex who hurts you reaches out to you, you might be tempted to respond with anger of seek for an opportunity to hurt them.
However, this not the best approach. In this article I am going to show you 13 best ways to an Ex who have hurt you. The responses that will be mentioned below will help to heal, move on and protect yourself from further harm.

1. Take a pause before you respond
   Taking a moment to think before responding, will allow you think and evaluate your emotions. Coming across your Ex or his messages can stir up a lot of negative emotions in you. It will not be advisable to respond quickly to avod hitting up the polity and saying things you might regret later in the future. At least give yourself an hour or more before replying their message.
   Replying quickly can be easily interpreted that you are missing them and eager to hear from them.

2. Figure Out How You Feel
   Understand what you should get of the conversation with your EX will help to go a long way in knowing what and how to reply them. Do you still have feelings for your ex? Will you like to get back together them? Be sincere with yourself and have a purpose before replying them
   Ask them why they reached out
   If you are not sure of the reason why they are texting you, you should ask why they reached out and what they will like to have out of the conversation. This will help to prevent them from wasting your time or spending it on pleasantries.
   You can ask them how come they are texting you now or what is the reason for messaging you

3. Be polite and keep things friendly
   Avoid asking them too many questions or cursing them or even begging them to come back to your life. Instead be courteous with your reply and chat with them as you would chat any of your friends.
   This can foster a casual relationship with your ex if you are still interested in having them close.

4. Try not to lead them on if you are not interested
   If you not interested in getting back together, avoid giving high hopes to your ex especially if he is trying to lure you back to the relationship. Stop replying their messages or you can tell them bluntly that you are not interested in coming back to the relationship.
   It is not wise to be keeping contact with someone who you no longer have feelings for again. It will hurt them and will not help you either way especially if you are in a relationship with a new partner

5. Ignore them if you are not ready to talk
   If you are still trying to recover from the emotional trauma of the break up with your ex, you can decide to ignore and delete their messages if it reminds you of memories you want to forget.
   It is your choice to reply to their messages or not and ignoring them will help you recover faster and stronger

6. Ask to meet up if you still want the relationship
   If you are still in love with your Ex, you can still for a meeting somewhere if he is also interested in have you back. Having a physical heart to heart conversation can help struck out your differences and how knows might bring you back together.

7. Try to get your hopes high
   The fact that your Ex chatted you up after a long absence of time, does not mean that they want you back in their life.
   Avoid having high hopes Whenever your ex sent you a message, they might not be missing you. Maybe they did it by mistake, or they wants to greet you and check up on you. This will help prevent your hopes from getting dashed.

8. Avoid replying late night messages
   Receiving late night messages from you ex can be signs of your ex being drunk or lonely in the night. Try and sebd your replies to the message in the morning after reading them.
   If your ex was drunk while sending it, they won't bother to remember checking your reply to their messages in the morning.

9. Work through any problems you have with your ex before getting back together
   It is evident for you to think about the causes of the break up of the relationship in the first place before thinking of mending fences together.
   If the same issues that make your ex to hurt you are not sorted out, you should not venture back into the relationship to avoid another one off relationship.

10. Limit Social contact
    You can unfollow them on their social media channels to avoid been triggered by hurt by viewing their photos and reading their posts. Social media can serve as a breeding ground for more pains and regret if you are still seeing them.
    When you're hurt, it's essential to seek support from loved ones, friends, or a therapist. Talking to someone who cares about you can help you process your emotions, gain perspective, and feel less alone. Don't be afraid to reach out and Forgiving help.

11. Take responsibility:
    While it's easy to blame your ex for the hurt they caused, taking responsibility for your part in the relationship can be a powerful way to heal and grow. Reflect on what you could have done differently and learn from your mistakes. This can help you avoid similar situations in the future.

12. Forgive yourself:
    Forgiveness is a process, and it starts with forgiving yourself. Acknowledge that you did the best you could with the resources you had at the time. Forgive yourself for any mistakes, and remind yourself that you're human. Forgiveng yourself can help you release guilt and shame, and move forward with your life.

13. Practice self-compassion:
    Self-compassion is a powerful way to respond to an ex who hurt you. Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and patience. Remind yourself that healing takes time, and that it's okay to feel hurt. Practice self-compassion by being gentle with yourself, engaging in self-care activities, and avoiding self-criticism.