What men want? – How to attract a guy

in #love7 years ago (edited)

Coming from the perspective of the male phycology, we need to understand that men are visual where females are more emotional, more about comfort and personality. So as a woman you need to take care of your looks, this does not mean wearing a ton of make-up or being fake, this simply means you need to take care of your health, your weight and hygiene and you need to have a sense of style. If you care about your health and looks you should do these things anyway.

Most guys are sensitive to weight just because guys like healthy fit girls and that is a fact backed up by biology, that is something we are drown to and can’t really do anything about it.

As a woman you might ask what does love have to do with physical appearance?
The short answer is it kind of does, especially to men who have options.

The long answer goes something like this. As a woman you are mostly attracted to the guy’s personality and you might desire a man who is outgoing, does stuff, is humorous, adventurous and so on. The same argument can be made here, what does personality have to do with love? The fact is women are drawn to personality and men to physical appearance.

The second thing that men want are girls who are sweet, caring and loyal, it’s hard to reject a girl like that, especially if she is not nagging you. Guys want the intimacy but a lot of guys don’t want too much of it simply because we want our sense of independence. That Independence a guy has is what attracted you in the first place, so taking this in consideration, as a girl you don’t want to smoother him too much and you don’t want to make him the center of your universe you need to have stuff to do, other friends you can meet and because a guy will see that you are actually out there doing stuff and you are not so desperate, the man will actually chase you a little bit, so make sure your life is interesting, have activities that you are doing. This works both ways, nobody wants somebody who sits home all day and has no life.

Third thing and I think this goes without saying is that guys want great sex. just because most guys are very sexual and as a guy you want to be in a relationship that offers you great sex. To most guys sex is very important part of the relationship, learning it mastering it.. and with time taking it to a whole new level. Most people don’t even realize how deep sex goes and they just have boring “Vanilla” and they are not exploring their sexuality and so after a few months the relationship can get stale and boring.

A tip for any girl reading this is to not be afraid to be a bit “sexually aggressive”, because when the girl is too submissive and expects the guy to do everything then to the guy this feels like he is doing all the work and it’s not always fun. Guys love for the sex to be initiated on them, and I know this is not always natural for girls to do but it can be very fun for both to experiment and the guy will love you for this, especially if you initiate in a kinky way. The guy will be like “ Ohh damn most girls don’t do that “ and like I said earlier he will love you for this.

DON’T WORRY – A guy will love you for your personality as well but like I said for a guy who has options you need to pass the “visual test” first and it’s not necessary all about looks, be happy smile a lot and be confident because you are beautiful when you do so.

As a girl, when you try to find the ideal guy and not just a guy to fall in love with you, but “the one”, there will always be work involved in the sense of personal development to work out kinks in your personality and be able to manage a relationship well. You need to put in the work. Guys have to do it as guys and girls have to do it as girls, otherwise you can self-sabotage your relationship or even worst get in to the type of relationships you don’t want.

Also you can check out want girls want by clicking the link below

https://steemit.com/love/@mariuswatts/what-women-want

-Namaste

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I think great sex is equally important for women. Women are equally as sexual as men. It's just not as acceptable for women to express it loudly. But we wish, we could - without fearing of having our reputation compromised or find men feel entitled to our bodies without permission.

You are absolutely right omg you need to read my post on what women want :D

https://steemit.com/love/@mariuswatts/what-women-want

Thank you so much for the comment and good luck

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