4 Signs He Isn’t Interested After Sex
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You’ve been talking to a new guy, and you make the decision to sleep with him. Maybe things are going smoothly, but perhaps he just isn’t responding to you like you would have hoped. As a dating expert, I never want women to keep pursuing a guy after he has been showing signs that he isn’t interested. Today, I’d like to share with you four signs to look for that may suggest he isn’t interested in you after you’ve had sex:
He Uses Words, Not Actions
There’s a fascinating idea that has always stuck with me about the way we communicate. As it turns out, communication is 55% body language, 38% tonality, and only 7% what we actually say. Isn’t that crazy? Unfortunately, if you’ve been responding positively to his words, but you haven’t seen any body language to back up what he’s saying, chances are he doesn’t mean it. This 7% idea explains why men can promise you the moon and stars, but they never truly commit to you. If you notice that he’s been saying all sorts of sweet things over text but always flakes when it comes time to hang out, he probably isn’t interested in committing to you.
He Won’t Introduce You to Friends or Family
I understand that getting to know someone’s family is a big step, but getting to know their friends isn’t as big of one. If his friends come up to you and say, “Hi, you must be _______! I’ve heard so much about you,” that’s a great sign. It means he is trying to add you to his life. However, if he makes no effort to mention you to his friends, it means he likely didn’t think you would ever meet them. This is a clear sign that you are a temporary thing, not a long-term commitment.
He Only Gets Nice When You’re About to Have Sex
I’m not saying he’s rude all the time by any means, but do you notice him acting cold and aloof when you’re going on a date, but suddenly he’s extremely affectionate when you’re alone? This is a sign that he might be only interested in sex. If sex is the only part of your relationship that he enjoys, he won’t be trying to keep you happy or interested while doing much else.
He Ignores or Dismisses You While Arguing
All couples fight, so don’t worry about a small spat now and then. However, how does he behave when you fight? Does he start to ignore you and distance himself from the situation like he doesn’t care? It’s important to know the difference between “This isn’t a big deal to me” and “I don’t care about you and our relationship.” Let’s say you guys get in an argument about what you’re going to have for dinner and he says, “Whatever, you pick.” That’s not a bad sign; it means he views the fight as insignificant. However, if you two start fighting about the amount of time he spends with his friends over you and he responds by just leaving? It means he probably doesn’t care about you or your opinion of him.
What Can You Do About It?
Maybe he doesn’t see you as a long-term investment right now, but that doesn’t mean that he won’t in the future. Do you want to learn how to change his attitude towards you and your relationship? I deal with these situations all the time and help women find men who are truly invested in them and their relationship. Fill out the form below, and we’ll chat. I’m looking for the truly committed students the ones who are willing to work for what they want. If that’s you then I hope to hear from you soon!
With Love,