10 things should be considered to a better relationship

Valentine's Day is almost here, and I'm excited to learn about this new platform called Steemit that I was told about. So i thought why don't I make my first post about relationships, a topic I wanted to write about some time ago, and that is such an important part of our lives. I have learned that we all can work on our relationships so we can love and get love back, and would like to share my thoughts on that.. Sounds good? ;)
My younger self would have loved to say "a perfect relationship" in the title, but i have learned that there is no such thing, but also that a great relationship is really all that we need. It can be beautiful, and also it's real! There are always ups and downs for every person, good days and bad days, different moods.. but if we keep these top ten things in mind, I think we can give ourselves and our partners the hand we need to put it all together again.

1- Thinking in different ways: if we consider the biological reasons, research shows that women tend to use both sides of their brains when they think, it makes them think about one thing in different ways and see it from more than one side, like the memory about one thing, when, where …etc. while men tend to use the left side where all the thoughts are governed by logic and rational. In another way when a man and a woman discuss about something the man tend to go straight and only about that thing but women will go about all things that revolve or connect in a way or another to that thing..

2- Reacting differently: like dealing with pain or with any other situation: when it comes to pain women have been found to experience pain more intensely and they recover from pain faster, they don’t allow pain to control their lives, while when men get sick their entire life is in shambles, and most of them become miserable and maybe unable to get out of bed for days.
There’s a biological reason behind that… the different hormones and the way they affect their bodies while being sick.
I believe this applies to any different situation, hormones affect everything.

3- Men don’t remember: any big or small memory, event, anniversaries…etc They don’t mean it or do it on purpose.
Like: ”Do you remember our last fight?”. The answer will probably be “No“. Most men are simply not into details and especially the old ones it even can be erased, while women will never forget any detail specially the old ones!

4- Dealing with emotions: women are definitely more expressive and in touch with their feelings and don’t see anything wrong with letting the tears down, men are little more guarding about expressing themselves, they prefer to keep it bottled up until they’re alone and can let it out in private .

5- Emotional support: like trust, it’s a big thing when it comes to a lasting relationship, it means how the two connect when they are apart, it means feeling safe and secure. Respect, it starts with respecting ourselves first, respect the other and accept them as they are, give some small private space for each other.

6- Social world around you both: the virtual world in social media or in real life friends and family that all affect the relationship, some balance should be found to make that all fit in. Setting time for this and some time for that, having some mutual couples or friends to spend time together it can help a lot breaking the daily routine and helps to improve the relationship.

7- Intimate life: this is one of the main things in any relationship, and there’s difference in how both sides can get that feelings.
Women relate it to their feelings and moods, while mostly men have the testosterone hormone which can drive them into the mood by visual stimulation, like seeing parts of the body they like.

8- Common things: having some habits or interests to do together is a very healthy way to keep the relationship going, even watching a series or a movie together.

9- Always have goals and dreams together: make sure to have something to look forward to and to pursue it as a couple, it gives a great feeling when you are working towards a goal with your partner.

10- Honest communication: the more the two communicate the closer they are, accepting and forgiveness will always show the way through difficult times!

That is what i have learned in my relationship, tell me guys what do you think?
Looking forward to hear your thoughts!

Lama.