Have you son angered you before

My son is in second grade (7 years old). Earlier this school year, I received a telephone call from the school principal. The school heard from a parent that my son had threatened her child on the school bus the afternoon before. The threat occurred during a discussion where my son said something along the lines of, "I'm going to bring a knife to school and cut you."

I'm thankful the other little boy knew to tell an adult he was threatened. The other child is 2 years younger than mine.
I'm thankful my son was not suspended from school, though I would have understood had this happened and was anticipating this when the principal was telling me what happened. Instead, he spent the day in the principal's office, which upset him.
My son wrote an apology letter to the child. I had the letter given to the principal, who then made the decision to pass it on to the family.
My son lost a major privilege. In addition to losing electronics and other favored items at home and many discussions about why what he did was wrong, he had been planning to go on a long-anticipated road trip with his dad out of state that weekend. His sister went instead. This was devastating for him.
As a result of this, my husband and I are more cautious about what our son can watch on tv (we do not have cable, but he is sometimes allowed to go on YouTube and we are supervising that much more than we used to).
So, why did he threaten the child? We don't know. We tried to question him without providing him excuses. He told us what led up to the incident, but there was nothing the other child did or other children around him were doing. We can only assume he heard something on one of the videos he watched on YouTube.

I was ashamed because this was out of character for my son. He is gentle and kind to our smaller animals at home and usually plays well with other children. I was occasionally bullied as a child and didn't think "my" child would do this kind of thing, though I hadn't explicitly talked with him about bullying or threatening others. I'm hoping we have caught this behavior early enough and that with the right guidance, it won't continue.
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