RE: Why people cheat while in a relationship...
Now, that is and interesting view, I'd never thought about it that way, @melkor, never connected cheating with welfare. I suppose it makes a lot of sense, as an explanation. Somehow, I find it to be more true than all the others I've heard, such as emotional need, not being heard etc. I'd much rather think people are cheating bastards (both men and women) who'll do it if they can....I'm not saying the others aren't true, just that this seems more appropriate.
I understand cheating in theory, but I still can't wrap my head around it, because nowadays it's apparently shocking for them not to cheat. I can't help but wonder, what's happened to love? I know it may perhaps seem a childish view, somewhat naive,but I still think it's a question worth asking....
Oh, and thank you for the reply ;)
True honour, courage and loyalty are extremely rare virtues not found in most people. The true test occurs not when others are observing, but when the person is unobserved. Moreover, most people pathetically justify their poor behaviour, since they believe their own bullcrap. De-Nile isn't just a river in Egypt.
Due to their extreme rarity, these 3 virtues are very important. Since you cannot control how others behave and it is a total waste of time to try to "fix" others, it is a priority to get your own house in order and set an example for others not through your words, but your actions. Talk is cheap. A consistent and truthful demonstration of virtue, on the other hand, is a good in and of itself. If others follow your example, then all the better. However, your behaviour and self-esteem should always be from within. If you are looking for external approval and validation you have missed the boat.
In the years to come you will be tested many times. Corruption will tempt you and you will need to make difficult choices. When the time comes, and come it will, remember this conversation. In the face of entropy, banality and licentiousness you will succeed or fail in life based on your adherence to honour, courage and loyalty.
Yes, these virtues are most important in life, I know. It's how I try to live, true to myself and focused on these qualities. I always try to measure myself from within, to make sure I am okay with what I do. I have to admit it's hard, I often let myself be influenced by outside sources, so it's a constant battle, but I try to tell myself as much as I can to be brave and to do things I feel okay with. I think that's why I like Lemmy so much, because to me, he was an embodiment of these virtues.
Thank you, @melkor. As I said, I try to live my life as you say, but it's often hard, especially not to need approval from others. Your words mean a lot to me, and I will try to keep them near, especially in times of need.