Love vs prostitution: A tale of two frenemies
Definition of frenemy: Something or someone who appears to be a friend but is actually an enemy.
I will start by saying I know the basis for comparison for the two seems awkward, but in reality, after my explanation, I hope it becomes clearer what this post aims to achieve.
We sometimes get to a point where we realize one of the greatest problems to have ever plagued humanity: the problem of contorting the truth to make the actual gravity of the situation seem less harmful or sway in the favor of the individual telling the story.
I believe we live in a society where people actually twist things a lot and an example is in the case of love and prostitution. What is love? What is prostitution? Can love be said to exist in prostitution? Can prostitution be said to exist in love? Join me and explore.
Sometime back, I met an awesome guy who was a beacon of inspiration to so many young people around. I always knew he had potential for greatness and that gave me this feeling that any woman he eventually settled with was going to be a lucky lady.
Fast forward some time later, he found a lady whom he gushed over, after a while, she also started making waves due to his influence and she was basking in the ambience of her new found fame. At first they seemed inseparable, but then the higher they got, the more visible the cracks became.
Suddenly, he became a guy of distant memory to her, she no longer felt the same way about him, she was ashamed to even celebrate important moments like his birthdays and all. To put up a pic of him seemed like a Herculean task. Whenever she put up pictures of him, it was either after a barrage of pictures with other people or he simply featured and the inscription accompanying such images were usually ordinary as compared to image of other guys.
She no longer felt he was good enough to attend functions with her, even important and romantic outings they attended together only featured pictures of her suddenly. The drift here is not the long story, the drift is what comes after the breakup. For most people who don't understand, the usual defense becomes "You think it was easy for me, I gave him my body, a part of me."
The questions I will like to ask before even attempting sympathy are these;
- Did you also enjoy the sex?
- Did you benefit from the association more?
- Did you leave after or before it was beneficial?
- Why wait until you got what you wanted?
These questions are critical either to the male and female people involved as this is not solely limited to one sex.
It happens to both parties, either the male or female counterparts.
Let us now explore how prostitution factors in. In straight up prostitution, both parties enter into an agreement, binding by either cash or kind, and at the end of the day, both come out in a win-win situation without having extra expectations.
There are no hidden costs, no extra charges and no sudden surprises. This is not to promote prostitution (who am I to judge) but why do people blame and shame prostitutes when some modern day relationships are synonymous with it?
Traits of prostitution;
- Use your 'assets' to achieve gain.
- Put up with virtually anything to get what you want.
- Feelings become secondary at the onset.
- Zero expectation.
The list goes on but look closely and tell me some modern day relationships do not exhibit such traits. Study actual prostitution and tell me the difference.
Worse part is you see people in a relationship and they will have multiple partners in the name of not wanting to put their eggs in one basket. They will upload caption like "you are the reason for my happiness, if you know you know..."
The truth is prostitution has left low pay hotels, it has left the streets, it is now landed in some relationships.
Be clear about what you want and stop deceiving people lest karma will come back for you!
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They say truth is a bitter pill to swallow, humanity keeps fading constantly but we all seem to ignore. More often than not the relationship most people enter are for ulterior motives and marriage not being one of them, and both parties are aware of this even if they claim not to be, until we gain back our humanity things will just get worse.
The truth is that people try to justify wrong actions with soothing definitions or explanation but does that actually make it right? I think not
nice post dear friend
Thank you.
Wow @ehiboss, I have had a first hand experience of this, and trust me it's not an experience I wish upon any one.
There are some people who come in your life pretending that they love you only because they need you and what you got to offer them.
Many of us believe that when we give love, we are getting the love back but sometimes it’s just an illusion of what we gave them that they are giving us,
Everyday thousands of break ups occur. The reason behind them is simple. One of them is not a real lover of other.
A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise
Later, when such people who have been hurt by such people now retaliate by becoming not too trusting of others, avoiding relationships or what nots, we still get blamed.
Such is life though, we don't stop being good because people have been evil to us.
Deep talk
Core truth
We tend to condemn in others what we permit in ourselves. Relationships has become a permissive platform for professional prostitution, where as long as the pay comes, you can have sex.
Anyway, i am of the opinion of one solution to it..
Your opinion is a sound one from a sound mind.
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