What’s The Meaning Of Romance?
How much effort and value do you put into maintaining romance in your relationship? Is it something that’s only a sad, pale memory, or a daily creative challenge with a worthy outcome?
Keeping romance alive in your intimate relationships is a very important and special celebration of your connection to another human. It’s easy to let the initial excitement with someone you are attracted to slide and it takes effort and time to make sure your lover knows how important they are to you, on a daily basis.
Is it acceptable to go for days without a gentle touch, a kiss, a kind and loving word, some acknowledgement that your special someone is above all others?
Absolutely not.
Keeping romance alive is simple. It can be as predictable as a bunch of flowers, a little note left for your lover to read, kind words, sharing a bar of chocolate or having a cozy NETFLIX binge. It doesn’t have to be costly, and it certainly doesn't need to be presented with bells and whistles.
Other suggestions include making time to be with your partner. You have chosen your loved one and they have chosen you. This suggests that the pair of you want to be with one another. It is important to not let the day to day grind take over. Whilst intimacy can be found doing the household chores, cooking together and washing the car, for example, carving out time to do something special and meaningful to you can go a long way to maintaining the connection.
Is there something you can do to surprise your partner? Is there a job you know they hate doing? Is there a place they’d like to visit, but just haven’t managed to get there yet. Consider a special and surprising day out for them, it will earn you serious brownie points.
Show your gratitude and appreciation every day. A smile, good manners, an unexpected word in their ear will assist in making the invisible threads of connection stronger. It’s so easy to be a slob when you’re familiar with someone.
Make time for sex and physical intimacy. Many people often simply say they don't have time for sex, or that they don’t care about it anymore. People get out of the habit, fooling themselves that sex isn’t for them. Consensual sex is healthy and natural, it sends the feel-good hormones around your body, makes you feel ten years younger. In my experience, the more often you have sex, the more you’ll feel like having sex. Try having sex ten days in a row, you’ll see what I mean. It’s a bonding dream.
Don’t harbour a grudge. Be mature, stand up and calmly say your piece. If you have to say sorry, pony up and apologise. Grudges with a loved one are simply immature and condescending. If you maintain a grudge and try to make your partner pay repeatedly for some perceived/real injustice, perhaps you need to rethink your relationship.
And finally, chuck out all the disgusting holey knickers, sock, jocks and items that make you look like a colourblind bag lady/gentleman. A little bit of self-respect goes a long way because if you can’t respect yourself, it’s going to be damn hard to respect anyone else.