How to love the one you love

I don't know. Am I the only one with this kind of confusio!people who do not know how to love my love, many times feel that they are always so weak.
Today I want to talk about how husbands, children and parents should choose! Perhaps from the point of view of many people, we are now grown up to have a life, independent! I felt the same way many years ago, but as I grew older, I became more and more aware of what my parents were looking for. I wish my children were around. In the past, I highly valued the idea of a foreign country. The basic situation abroad is a society centered on the individual. It advocates personal freedom, emphasizes personal personality, demands that no one harm or infringe upon the dignity and interests of others, and does not interfere with the lives and privacy of others. It does not affect the peace of others, and it treats old people and children equally. After the child is 18 years old, he leaves his parents 'family and makes a living independently(going to college and doing his best to work and study) without having to assume the responsibilities of adoptive parents. Parents can not control the life and future of their children.but this is not the case in China. In the eyes of Chinese parents, children are always children. Always working for the kids. Maybe this is another kind of happiness to be a Chinese parent! This joy can be called the companion of love.
Now I am faced with the embarrassing situation: I am an only child, and now I live a life of old age and small, belonging to a long marriage, many times I want to take time to accompany my parents. Once saw on the Internet such a calculation formula: If only seven days of the year can go home to accompany parents, they will spend 11 hours a day together. If parents are 60 years old, they are assumed to live to 80 years old. We actually spent only 1,540 hours with our parents, or 64 days. 64 days! It's what we thought it would be! So I wanted to spend more time with them. I planned for a long time, and finally arranged everything around me, ready to drag the baby less than one year old today, a large bag of luggage on the train to return home! To be with your parents. Everything is ready for a beautiful tomorrow! But no one thought that the baby was sick in the middle of the night. Makes me have to struggle with whether to take the sick child to continue to move forward! The journey, I do not know whether the children can withstand the journey, it is I call the actual situation to tell my parents, I can feel their disappointment across the screen from the phone. But they still have been there to persuade me to give up this time to go home, afraid that the children can not withstand the toss, this is the next generation of Chinese love, next generation relatives. I tried to hold back my tears on the phone and felt that I had let my elderly parents down again! An old saying came to mind: Parents are not far away！
Put the phone down. I'm thinking! How do I manage my life, if I go back to my hometown. You can have more time to accompany your parents, but your own small home has a husband's job here. If you let your elderly parents live in a foreign country, they are not used to living in a foreign country! I 've been trying to figure out what to do with it!