Steel hearts: people who hide what they feel
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Steel hearts make us look less sensitive. In view of others we can see ourselves as cold and without feelings, although inside what we live is diverse.
We speak of those who are cold, not very compassionate and may even seem indolent. These are people who have such a hard heart, that few emotions reach beyond their borders and transcend the layer of consciousness. We refer to steel hearts.
To the eyes that do not cry, to the lips that do not usually smile, to the hands that do not touch. To those who never abandon their role as spectators, those who give the impression that nothing that happens implies or cares about them. So fragile, although they appear to be so strong ...
"Sometimes we put on a breastplate, believing that in that way we will not feel pain, but we do not see that by isolating ourselves we are hurting ourselves".
How are steel hearts?
When we speak of "hearts of steel" we emphasize those who have difficulty expressing what they feel . We show you some of its features:
Assumption
They may come to believe that others should know how they feel. So, stop showing it.They can be perfectionists
These are subjects who find it hard to admit that they make mistakes . And showing weakness is part of it.Low self-esteem
It generates inability to show feelings, because they feel so unworthy that they think it is not worth expressing themselves.Fear
It can be people who are afraid to face conflicts and show their emotions.Catastrophic thinking
They may think that everything is lost. So, why do more?Ignorance
These people may not know how to communicate.Shy
There are people who still feel the desire to share what happens to them, are restrained by the anxiety caused by the fact of starting to walk on land they do not know.Protection
People with steel hearts may be hiding what they feel to protect themselves. They use it as a defense mechanism against the possibility of being vulnerable.Difficulty to feel
It means that they find it hard to listen to each other, which makes it difficult for them to determine how they are doing.Each person is a world, in it is its authenticity . People with steel hearts can count on one or more of these characteristics. The common denominator of all is that they are not able to open a space for emotions.
However, the fact that they do not express emotions does not mean that they do not feel them. Steel heart people feel, the problem is that they do not know or do not want to communicate it. The mechanisms by which this happens can be conscious or not.
But how do steel hearts act? These types of people can show themselves to others as very strong, or very distant. Then, it gives the impression that they are insensitive.
However , there may be people who are as cold as icebergs , so much so that they do not even have compassion or generate empathy with the other. It is about people with psychopathy . But, not all steel hearts are. As we have explained before, some are like that because of shyness, fear, perfection, etc.