How to Stop Existing and Start Living
what's going on guys, in this Article I'm gonna give you five steps you can take today to stop just existing and going with the flow so you can start to actually take control and live the life you've always wanted, let's get started.
Admit your insecurities:
we all have different things that were insecure or embarrassed or ashamed of but here's the thing most of us do with everything we can to pretend like these things don't exist and to hide them from other people for example back in high school and college when my other buddies we're all having sex I was still a virgin and for the longest time I tried to play it cool and act like I was getting laid just like everybody else and because of this I never took the steps I needed to actually get better with women plus I was trying to play it so cool all the time that I put so much pressure on myself to impress my friends when I was around girls and that made me even more nervous it was not until I was open about this problem with myself and with my bros that I actually started making fast progress so here's my challenge for you bro right now think about what does the number one thing you're the most embarrassed or ashamed of and then share that with your closest friend.
Daily journaling:
I'm not talking about some dear diary BS I'm talking about every morning writing down your answers to a set of peak specific questions personally I like to use the grid diary app and every morning I answer four key questions what did i do well yesterday what would I do differently what are three things I'm grateful for and what do I need to get done today I write down two or three quick bullet points for each of these questions and that makes sure that I'm living life consciously and I'm very focused about how I'm spending my time and making sure that I'm actually taking action towards my goals.
scare yourself :
you have to realize the number one reason that we stay complacent and we don't break out of our shells is because we're afraid of failing you're never gonna get an awesome girlfriend if you're too afraid of approaching girls because of rejection you're never gonna find work that you truly love if you're too afraid to quit your job and this is why I recommend that you do something every single day that scares you so for example find a crowded area and do some push-ups or just take your shirt off and let people know what's up or do something more practical like approaching one cute girl every single day
spend on experiences
one of the biggest reasons we don't start living the life that we want is because we don't have the disposable income we need to go on that trip that we've always wanted to just start that business that we've always wanted and one of the big reasons for this is because we tend to spend our money on relatively insignificant material goods so maybe for you you spend all your new money on video games or maybe for you you spend all your new money on shoes and clothes or maybe for you you spend all your money going out eating expensive dinners and getting expensive drinks at bars and nightclubs so here's my challenge for you bro every day for the next week at the end of the day write down what you spent money on that day I promise this is gonna be an eye-opening experience for you and this is gonna help you be more aware of where you can save your money.
Break your routine
sometimes routine can be a good thing for example meditating or going to the gym every day we've got to realize sometimes routine can be a bad thing as well for example if every day after school or after work you just go home and drink beers and watch Netflix that's not gonna help you live the life you've always wanted in fact you have to be ready to sacrifice some of these daily comforts if you truly want to break out of your shell and make vast progress maybe you change it up and wake up earlier in the day so you can go to the gym before work or before school and that way after work you can try something new you know you can pick up a new hobby like my tie or you can do it I did it you can use that time to try and start a side hustle those are five things you can do today to stop existing and start living the life you've always wanted.
Thanks alot for reading my post, Let me know if you have any questions.