My dear @szuri,
Your writing is as beautiful and as touching as ever. You will be able to shed the extra layers of skin, just try first not add more on top of what you have.
Decide that, even if it sounds selfish, you will protect yourself and love yourself before you protect or love anyone else. Just like your grand father said.
You know why that is important?
Because if you lose yourself under all these layers of Not-You, you will be more lost from your core and you will not be bale to love or protect those who are important to you.
My dear @szuri, as you grow, people will impose themselves on you more. But keep in mind to learn whats important, and shed anything that weighs you down even a little bit.
One day, your true self will shine very strong to protect you and those you love the most.
Hugs <3<3