"SEE" WITH YOUR HEART

In life, we have all gone through hardships, heartaches and heartbreaks. Someone, some how has hurt us in ways we thought we would never recover from. But somewhere along the way, we have shut our hearts out to that pain. It is easier to not deal with it, than to face the pain of loss, void, self-sabotage, or lowered self-esteem, and having to piece together our broken heart is just too much. However, have you ever considered the consequence of leaving your heart broken? What would happen to it? Can you truly love again?

What ends up happening is we leave behind those pieces, and force ourselves to move on from the pain. We justify our pain by saying things like, “life goes on”, “it wasn’t meant to be”, or “let it go” etc. Eventually we develop ways to numb ourselves from the missing pieces by drinking, doing drugs, chronic dating, living in our minds, and forgetting how to feel with our heart. To me, that is the biggest tragedy – when one shuts down the heart and can only process emotions through the mind. After all, the mind is built with logic and love is an illogical feeling. Love is meant to be felt, embraced, lived, and encompassed in our entire being – and that starts from the heart. The mind can only process what it sees, but love is blind, so how can it process these emotions if they are intangible? How can the mind “see” the warmth of someone’s soul, the beauty of their heart, and the depths of their being?

One can process compatible traits through the mind – personal interests, physical attraction, habits, shared values, similar visions etc. Those are definitely aspects to consider when building a healthy relationship. However, those are also aspects that are subjected to change. What someone likes to do today, may change over time, how they look today will change as time passes, their vision and values may be the most stable attributes. But there is one thing that doesn’t change – it is their heart, how they give love to the world, the imprint of their experiences, their soul, those things make up who a person truly is. Therefore, to truly love is to “see” with your heart and discover the depths of someone’s being and fall in love with that person. Otherwise, all the love you will discover is artificial, superficial and shallow because they have been computerized by your mind.

I hope you will find the courage to face the pain from your past scars and pick up the pieces of your broken heart, so that you can see with it again. That love can be painful, but it is worth it. And you are not broken because of your scars, a heart is meant to be broken so that it can be open to the many facets for love to be poured in.

Sending unconditional love
@TangyWendy