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Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face, especially if you are in business. Yes, and that is also true if you are a housewife, architect or engineer. In the heyday of his activity, John D. Rockefeller said that "the ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee. And I will pay more for that ability, "said John D.," than for any other under the sun. "

They say, "If You Want to Gather Honey, Do not Kick Over the Beehive"

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize  themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be. Criticism is  futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him  strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a  person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses  resentment. Studies show that an animal rewarded for good behavior will  learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively  than an animal punished for bad behavior. Later studies have shown that  the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting  changes and often incur resentment.

The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize  employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the  situation that has been condemned. Human nature in action, wrongdoers,  blaming everybody but themselves. We are all like that. Let’s realize  that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let’s  realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will  probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return. 

When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing  with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion,  creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. 

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools  do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and  forgiving. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding  and forgiving.