How To Trick Your Mind - Chapter 8

We all already got into situations where we needed to handle problems. Dealing with frustrate friends, challenging people, fixing broken objects, clarifying conflicts and so on...

Problems happen and you shouldn´t ignore it because it´s a chance to learn out of that fault. But the tricky thing is, that you need to know how to deal with it. 

Once you´ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you!

Learning how to handle the flaws will have a drastic effect on your health and happiness. 

I personally didnt know how to deal with problems 6 years ago... I remember the moments where I freaked out, asked for help and wasn´t able to manage mistakes. Fortunately I met my mentor and started to grow which helped me a lot in the last few years. Today I want to give back some tips which guided me through the journey.

Keep cool

First let me start with your feelings. If something happens to you, stay calm. The less reactive you are, the more you can use your better judgement to handle the challenge.  When you feel angry or upset, you might regret your action, so you should take a deep breath and count to ten before you argue. 

Is it worth it?

Before you judge a situation or put energy in it, make sure that the problem is worth it. Make a quick list in your head and set up 5 pros and cons. After that decide if you should use your energy to rule the problem or just to let go of the brunt. 

Separate the person from the issue

In every communication situation, there are two elements - The relationship you have with the person and the issue you are discussing. An effective communicator knows how to separate the person from the issue, and be soft on the person and firm on the issue. Take your time and act much calmer as I wrote above. 

Think longterm

A leader is someone who steps back from the entire system and tries to build a more collaborative, more innovative system that will work over the long term. - Robert Reich

Some people panic over a short-term problem and forget about the long-term plan. As the result, they never manage to handle real life problems. 

Confront Bullies

The most important thing you need to keep in mind is that bullies pick out persons whom they perceive as weaker or they want to feel better by pushing you down. Also bullies crave to get attention and act like a class clown while they hurt others. You should stay strong and handle against the pressure. Analyze the person who want to pinch you down and react against them!

Accept the present moment 

Only if you accept what happens right know, then you will figure out how to get out of it. Accept the things and people around you. Not everything is how you want it to be. If you arent able to accept reality, you will feel much more frustrated. 

Don´t blame others

Many people use to blame others for their problems because they fail to take full responsibility for the decisions they have made in life. The more you blame others with challenges you are faced with, the more you make people dislike you and not want to be around with you.

These were just a few tips and tricks on how to handle problems. There are many more but first you should start slowly and change to way you deal with mistakes/problems. 

I hope this post can help some of you and I am looking forward to share my trip to Barcelona with you. 

Thanks for reading 

Stay focused 

Love, Soldier