RE: Common Threads: Tell us about your most creative Romantic Gesture.
Hi @joshua-pace, wow, what an incredibly romantic thing you did for your girlfriend Megan! It's the stuff that movies are made off!
Regarding marriage, sometimes it's just meeting the "right" person and the right time. I think for each person, there are potentially many people they can find suitable as a partner - certainly our lives take highly different turns depending on the partners we choose, but there are many potential "happy endings."
I remember reading in your previous post that you measure your "future" girlfriends against Megan. Not that I am a romance expert, but I think it's going to be highly improbable to find someone better than the original - after all, each person can only be best at being themselves - so I think it will be tough for someone to be a better Megan ! Perhaps by allowing each person to be evaluated in their own context, you will find it easier to find a future love of your life.
Being a highly practical and unromantic person, my most romantic gestures are probably supporting my husband's dreams - whether it it is cooking less carbs and reminding him to drink green tea when he is trying to lose weight or giving moral support when he wanted to switch careers to a different field.
I really enjoy reading your Common Thread posts! 👍
I love your comments, sizzling :) Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and encouragement.
While I was certainly a believer of "one and only" when I was younger, I now fully accept that there are many potential people we can be with and many potential happy endings :) I think when I said that I compare other relationships to Megan, I mean it in a kind of subconscious way--in that, these days, I never actually think about Megan when I'm dating someone and I don't actively make those comparisons. For several years I did make those direct comparisons, but then I met someone else (another story that might appear on Common Threads) who radically changed what I was looking for in a partner... Today, I think I hold Megan up as a kind of subconscious "high water mark" regarding the potency of the love I felt and clarity I had on our future together. I don't think I'm looking for another Megan--but if I feel for someone the way I felt for her (and that feeling is returned) I won't make the same mistake twice. :)
Thanks! :)
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