I understand what are you going through, and you have figured out a good strategies to handle with all this. I know because my wife is constantly battling with stress, and not being able to say no to things or work that someone offers her to do. I will show her your post maybe it will help her. Me, I don't stress so often, I have different problems to solve. I lack of initiative and confidence, I have low self-esteem, I'm afraid of failing, I delay things I have to do, so I visit psychotherapist to understand where my problems start, and I try every day to make order or try some kind of system to balance my day. To become productive in many areas in my life. So yes some times is good that there is someone to listen when you talk, it's good to stop for a day to make order in your thoughts, clean the mess and fill your mind with something beautiful. God bless you