Real You Or Conforming You?

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Everyone is unique, without exception. Sadly, most of us don’t realize this fact. In the culture that we live, we have learned that we are not enough as we are. Since we were little children, we have been taught that we need to be a certain way in order to be accepted by the society. Pressured to conform to society’s standards, or else we were warned that we would be left alone and abandoned. Out of fear, most choose to conform.

Now, although we have been accepted by the society, deep down we feel empty and insecure. We feel lonely and disconnected. We feel a heavy burden deep within us that doesn’t allow us to act free and spontaneously. We have suppressed our true self so much that we don’t anymore recognize who we are. We have lost touch with our heart and spirit. Unless we realize our uniqueness and accept ourselves for who we are, without caring about the opinions of others, we are never going be free, honestly express ourselves, and live in joy.

Question your beliefs

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The first and foremost thing one should do in order to stop following the herd and create his or her own path, is to question all the beliefs that have been handed down to him or her, whether by parents, friends, teachers, religious teachers, or others. Mass beliefs can be limiting if we don’t have any solid basis for holding them, distorting our perception of ourselves and our relation to the world, making us think and behave in irrational ways, which many times can cause harm to ourselves and those around us.

Stay away from what is keeping you down

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From when we were very young, we have learned to do things that we don’t enjoy doing, be in company of people that we don’t like, do work that we hate...in short, to live a life that sucks and without ever complaining about it! Whatever is pulling your soul down, push it away from you, or learn to deal with it, without being negatively influenced by it.

Be honest

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A necessary thing to finding integrity, creating your own path, and reclaiming your life, is to be honest with yourself and others, no matter the consequences. Don’t say “yes” when you feel like saying “no”. Voice your opinion when you feel injustice is taking place. Express how you think and feel in general, so you can communicate your being with people, avoiding misunderstandings, and make it clear to others that you desire this or that kind of life.

People are usually afraid to go against the current, and instead choose to compromise themselves, afraid that nobody will like them. But I am telling you: those who don’t like you for being yourself, don’t deserve a place in your life! Surprisingly, the moment you become honest, you’ll become like a magnet, attracting effortlessly like-minded individuals. In the end, it doesn’t matter if you have plenty of fake friends, what matters is that you have real ones, even if they are just a few.

Let go of your past

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What is past is past. Learn from your past experiences, but don’t cling to them. Look and move forward, leaving the burdens of the past behind. No matter what your life has been so far, it doesn’t have to be this way in the future. Whether you have been a slave to ideologies or just an insecure person who was following the norms, afraid to think and act on your own, your life can take a completely different direction, if you are willing for this. From today, make a conscious choice to live the way you want to live, not the way others want you to live.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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