正面管教学习带给我的一些帮助和思考
周六的时候，我去听了一个关于孩子教育的迷你型课程，觉的挺有收获。
这个聚会是在海珠区的一个楼顶上，因为上边种满了一些植物花草，加上当天天气也不错，带有一点风，我去的时候大约是3点钟，与会的靓女告诉我，大约半个钟后开始聚会。
我有两个孩子，老大刚满四岁，老二两岁半，带着心中碰到的一些生活中关于孩子教育的困惑和问题，我可是很认真地在听老师讲课，如下图。：）
听课的只有我一个奶爸，其她都是妈妈级人物。
经过这近两个小时的听课学习和交流，我还是收获很大，主要是在情绪管理和教育认识上，比先前有了更深刻的感触。
生活中，在碰到孩子哭闹或发脾气时，我们刚开始或许都能自我镇静，但时间稍长，便会陷入情绪激动甚至失控中，变得很不耐烦起来，先前我也这样，而经过这次听课后，我学到了个新词：镜像神经元。大意就是我们受孩子的情绪影响，原本应自我冷静，不受孩子情绪影响，但实际中却经常陷入受孩子情绪波动影响中，进而自己思维情绪失控。反之，就要在每当发生这种情况时，时刻提醒自己，不要受不良外在因素影响，保持冷静，这样便可避免情绪失控做出一些不冷静的事情，而最要命的是，人在情绪失控时，往往做出的一些举措都是动物本能的反应，而自己在平静下来后则会懊恼不已。
我学到的另一点我认为对我有帮助的便是，当你在情绪失控的时候，一定尽量避免做(讲)出一些过激行为或话语。
English Version Of Today's Article By Teacher @rivalhw!
Positive Discipline Learning Gives Some Help and Reflection to Me
On Saturday, I went to listen to a mini course on children's education and I felt very rewarding.
The party was on the top of a building in Haizhu District, because it was planted with some plants and flowers. The weather was also good on that day with a little wind. When I went there was about 3 o'clock, the prostitutes told me that about After half a minute started the party.
I have two children. The boss is just four years old and the child is two and a half years old. With some of the difficulties and problems that my children encountered in my life, I listened to the teacher very seriously, as shown below. :)
Only one of my dad listened to the lesson, and she was a mother-level figure.
After this nearly two hours of lecture learning and exchange, I still gained a great deal, mainly in emotional management and education awareness, and had a deeper feeling than before.
In life, when we meet a child crying or tantrum, we may begin to self-satisfaction, but when we are a little longer, we will become emotionally or even out of control and become very impatient. I have also done this earlier. After this lecture, I learned a new word: mirror neurons. The general idea is that we are influenced by the children's emotions. They should have been calm and unaffected by the children's emotions. However, in practice, they often fall into the influence of children's mood swings, and then their minds are out of control. Conversely, whenever this happens, it is important to remind yourself not to be affected by bad external factors and to remain calm, so that you can avoid emotions and get out of control and make some uncomfortable things. The worst part is that people are When emotions get out of control, some of the actions that are often made are the animal's instincts, and you will be irritated when you calm down.
Another point I learned that I think is helpful to me is that when you are out of control, you must try to avoid doing (speaking) some excessive acts or words.
That's all from this wonderful, useful and informative Aricle written by my beloved friend @rivalhw. All the best dear and keep it up!
真好爸爸，现在国内好多都是丧偶模式育儿，很多爸爸都是甩手掌柜
你一不小心就说出了真相！
见的太多了 很多这样 爸爸甩手掌柜要是家里条件好也行 基本都是正常生活而已 美名曰赚钱养家 但是妻子其实也在上班赚钱还房贷.....我特别不喜欢什么幼儿园小学找个男老师 卖点就是什么增加男子气概如何，好多孩子都不是单亲家庭 爸爸都没给他增加男子气概 男老师顶什么用
你真是一个好爸爸啊。
没有那般好啊，就是觉得做的很不好，才去参加学习的
这活动看起来很温馨啊
情绪失控的时候说出来的话最伤人，所以情绪不好的时候深呼吸，冷静冷静，不要把语言变成一把利剑，刺伤别人，自己也不好受。
对的，意识到这点非常重要。
这个情绪管理课程，的确蛮有用处的，想必大伟哥也是一名称职的奶爸
我想说我还不是 ，所以才去学习听课 :)
以前我也有过情绪失控，言语上很是伤人的事，过后又很是后悔！慢慢的当情绪失控时我选择沉默或离开，以避免过激的言行！尤其是面对家人和孩子时！
对的，先让自己冷静下来，这也是我学到的一个方法。
看了我周边的朋友，我觉得奶爸也把孩子带的挺好的。
：）
哪里是管孩子，是先管好我们自己
这个说法太对了